“My sexy teasing is making him upset”

Hello! So me and my boyfriend are going through a long distance relationship right now, and we’re having a difficult time trying to get through it. One of the most recent bumps that we went through was that sometimes I tease him too much. And when I mean tease I mean wear sexy clothes, give him shows on Skype or FaceTime, or talk dirty to him. Before we went on the long distance thing we had sex regularly, and it has always been fun.

When we were together we would always tease each other and no one ever complained. But the reason why he thinks it’s too much sometimes is because he just misses me a lot. I understand what he is trying to say but my thing is that I don’t want to tease him if it’s just going to lead to him being turned off. Whenever I try to give him a show it always ends in us being sad or misunderstood. I don’t want to stop and he doesn’t either, we want to have fun, but we just don’t know how to tell each other “that’s enough” without making the other person feel bad.

“I told her I was fantasizing about her friend”

So this is the stupidest thing I have done yet…… a few days ago I got home from work, everything is fine, she was fine and I don’t know what came over me I decided to tell her that I had fantasized about one of her friends. With that said it changed the mood of the whole house. She stopped talking and being non responsive.

I know at that moment I messed up, I tried to explain at the time but it made things worse, I have never seen her this angry before. She has given me the silent treatment for 2 days now. I don’t know what to do. I don’t mind if people judge me for having those thoughts I know it’s a mistake and that because I am married I should only be faithful to my wife but I don’t even know if that counts as cheating. Do I wish I can take it all back? Of course, do I wish I never have those thoughts? Definitely. At the moment I am just waiting for her to forgive me but it feels like I am on death row. Please help?

“I’m bored with my relationship”

I’ve been dating this guy for almost 6 months now, but recently I’ve been getting bored with the relationship. Don’t get me wrong, he’s a great guy and an amazing boyfriend and we were even friends for a long time before we started to date. It’s just that recently I’ve been getting really annoyed over little things and the relationship isn’t exciting like it used to be.

Also, my ex is back from college and I’ve been fantasizing about him sexually.. a lot. I’ve been thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend, but I’m afraid of losing the only person who’s close to me and I can open up to. I generally keep my feelings to myself and not many people really know me. I’m ready to be free of the obligations of a relationship and explore other options, but I don’t want to lose my only real friend.

“He’s really bad at kissing”

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for just under 6 months and we’ve only kissed properly with tongues around 4 times. He’s really bad at it and I don’t want to tell him as I feel it will put him down. He’s always saying we need to get better at it and do it more so we can improve but it’s always super awkward and I don’t like doing it that much anymore? Help please :/

“Is my wife in a relationship with my son?”

I’m a 50 year old male and I’ve been married to my current wife for about 5 years. We have a good marriage. I also have a son and daughter from a previous marriage. My son is 26 and recently came to live with my wife and me. I work during the day and my wife stays home with our children, ages 12 and 10.

I’ve noticed that my son and my wife spend a lot of time together. Whenever I come in from work, they are together, laughing or in deep conversation. It’s usually when I come in, they tend to get quiet or change the subject. It wasn’t until my 12 year old told me that she had seen them hugging that I really became worried. I realize it was a mistake to bring him into my home and I want him gone. My wife thinks I’m overreacting but I feel like I no longer trust either of them. It has not just affected my relationship with my wife, but most definitely my relationship with my son. What should I do?

“Are his lies a deal-breaker?”

He didn’t cheat, but his lies don’t add up.  I say lies because I know they are. He’ll try explain one thing but I’ll question him about it again and everything he says contradicts his previous story.

He argues that he forgets and his memory isn’t good, but there’s just this feeling I get. I do trust he wouldn’t cheat on me but I think he has previously texted other girls suggestively and when I question him about it, he brings up my past and guys I previously chatted to before we got together.

I don’t know if I’m overreacting or thinking too deep but is this a deal breaker? Should I end it?

“He forced anal on me”

I’m sorry in advance if this is a little graphic. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year. We both agreed that anal sex was not something we were interested in. But about 2 weeks ago, he inserted his finger into my anus during sex. I told him it hurt, and he said that he wanted to do anal and we would have to start there.

The next night he asked if he could put his penis in it if he was gentle. I said no, but he did it anyway. I tried to get away, but he held me down, I was crying but he kept going harder. After it was done, he acted like everything was normal, so I assumed that he was oblivious to how much it hurt because we have kind of rough sex anyway.

Then the following night we got in an argument and I was lying on the bed. He grabbed my hair and put two fingers in violently. I was yelling for him to stop, but he just kept going harder. He did apologize afterward, because he did it because he was mad, and he knew it hurt. I’ve been seeing a lot that of that men being forceful when it comes to anal is fairly common. Please tell me what you think because I’m just confused.

“My sexual behavior disgusts me”

I was intimate with a man in exchange for a favor. It’s been a few months, and ever since then I cannot stop thinking about how disgusted I am with him, and myself with making a bad decision that I had full control of.

The whole time with him that night in my head I did not want to comply. I never found him attractive and looking at him now is just the worst. That night I was making excuses to stop. And now I mentally feel screwed up.

“Should I try to date my gym coach?”

I’m 24 years old and have a gym coach for the last year who is 43. During the past few months we have slept together 4 times but continue on as normal, as coach and client. We get along really well and have a lot in common but he drives me mad and is really set in his ways, but I am mad for him and it’s making me crazy.

We never speak about our ‘get togethers’ afterwards but they keep happening and I would love to know what it all means. I am recently out of a 4 and a half year relationship so I’m not looking for another one but I would like to know how he feels, or if he is even slightly interested in me in a more serious way. I am so afraid of rejection that I never tell him how I am feeling at all, and sometimes I feel as if he is being the same with me. I was thinking of asking him to see a comedian with me later this month that we both like. Super afraid of getting rejected but I want to spend more time with him outside of the physical stuff. What should I do???