“Do I hurt the first girl and attempt to date the second one?”

Someone who I have been kind of friends with for a while ended up hanging out with me one night. We had sex and since then have been doing the whole ‘friends with benefits’ thing with no title whatsoever. I feel like she likes me a lot more than I like her at the moment.

This has been going on for about a month and last week I met another girl at a school event and we hit it off. We’ve been texting ever since then and I feel that she likes me, because of a lot of flirtation in our messages. I think I like her too, she is very attractive but I’m not sure what to do.

Do I hurt the first girl and attempt to date the second one?  Do I wait until me and the second girl are actually dating before I stop with first one? To make it even more complicated girl two, who I like more, and is more attractive, is only a sophomore in high school, while me and girl one are seniors. I turn 18 very soon but she claims that she already told her parents about me and that they were cool with us going on a date. Please help me.

“I’m ashamed of my mom as she keeps quitting her job”

My mom recently got a new job. She refills vending machines – and I’m really disappointed in her.  She started going to college to be an interior designer, she quit, worked at a restaurant, and quit. She’s working here, and who knows when she gives up next and what other job she will get.

I feel so embarrassed because I KNOW she can do so much better and do the job she loves (interior design,) but she just gave up. I know she’s trying to support the family with bills and stuff, but for the past 12 years my dad alone did it and we were just fine. I’m just really frustrated and ashamed because I know she’s capable of so much more.

“My husband invites his parents when we go out”

Any time I ask my husband to go somewhere or do something we plan it out, but then he “uses the bathroom” and calls his mom and invites her and his dad along. It ends up that I don’t go. I do not want to spend time with them,  I want to spend time with my husband.

We went out to eat on Saturday night and I wanted pozole but he invited his mom and we went somewhere else. It just really bothers me.

“Should I cut her out of my life entirely?”

I’ve been working with this girl for about half a year. The first week we both started, I introduced myself, as I did to everyone else I didn’t know. She came up to me later and started a conversation with me. Asking what I liked to do, I told her I was into hiking and some other stuff. She was quick to ask when I was going next and with who, and asked that I hit her up and bring her. Continue reading

“Do I get rid of him or forgive and forget?”

I need help. I feel so sick just typing this, I’m 20 years old, I’m a female. I met my current boyfriend on my very first day of college, a year and a half ago and we fell so in love. Everything was absolutely perfect (almost too perfect and I felt it was too good to be true.)

Just 2 months ago he admitted he kissed a girl on a night out (he doesn’t remember and didn’t realize it happened until his friend told him the next day, so he was seriously intoxicated. Obviously, he said it was a mistake, blah blah blah. I can’t get over it and feel so upset. He also admitted he flirted with a girl 6 months ago at a festival he went to (also drunk.)

Do I get rid of him or forgive and forget, which seems impossible at the minute?

“To move or not to move?”

My husband and I are having a very hard time making a decision. We need to decide within a month or two if we should move to Vegas or stay in San Diego. He is in the Navy and I’m a stay at home mom, we have two kids, 2 and 5.

He is about to get out of the military, and we’re not sure if we should stay here (SD) or move home (Vegas). We are very happy in SD, we love the weather, area, water, parks, schools, etc. On the other hand, if we move home there are advantages too; bigger house with yard we can afford, family and friends, babysitters. Continue reading

“My boyfriend masturbated to another girl”

My boyfriend and I are very open with each other. We have talked about our past crushes and who we thought were cute. One of them is one of my best friends. I would have no problem with this, but he had masturbated to her when he liked me. He said he did it to take his mind off me. He was obsessed with me then. He said that she was a distraction from me.

During that time, we both had a huge crush on each other. I wouldn’t have minded if it was any other girl, but this is one of my best friends. Recently, he admitted that he didn’t know if he masturbated to her just because of her appearance. When we first discussed this, he said it was because she reminded him of me. Now, I don’t know what to think anymore! It hurt me a lot. I thought I was the only one he thought about, had a huge crush on at the time. Continue reading

“I think my ex is hoping we will get back together”

I was born with two spinal conditions called Scoliosis and Spina Bifida Occulta. I broke up with my boyfriend last July. We were together over 4 years. He has Cerebral Palsy and learning difficulties. He didn’t treat me right sometimes (shouting at me and only thinking about himself) and I felt like I was making most of the effort in the relationship, and it felt like I was looking after him.

I recently went to bingo because I was bored of staying in and he was there. I sat with him and told him I just wanted to be friends and I didn’t want to lead him on.

He phoned me today and I answered, which I shouldn’t have done and I told him I was going to bingo tomorrow. I told him that because I feel sorry for him, and he doesn’t have much in his life apart from bingo.

Should I go to bingo tomorrow? Part of me misses him, but I don’t want to be in a relationship with him, and I think he is hoping we will get back together because he has put a photo of when we were at school together on Facebook. I blocked him on Facebook before but he kept phoning me and sent me an email saying why did I block him? Is it best for me to block him on Facebook for good? Is that mean? I just think he is hoping we will get back together. I have told him a few times I just want to be friends.

“My boyfriend all of a sudden wants to take our only car to work”

My boyfriend and I have one car. Right now he is working and I am not. He works real crazy hours (sometimes 20 hour days) so he says he doesn’t want me to work. I have been looking for a job anyway though.

Usually I take him to work, since it’s only 15 minutes down the road. For a while he was saying he wanted me to take him so I wasn’t stranded at home all day. Today we got in a huge fight. I drove him to work, we kissed, I went home, and everything was fine. Then about 2 hours later, he called me saying he should be driving to work and that all my lazy ass does is sit at home. (Which is completely incorrect, I clean, wash his clothes, cook, grocery shop, pay all the bills, and run all the errands.)

I got real upset and asked where this was coming from. He said he’s tired of seeing everyone at work drive up in their cars and trucks, but I have to drop him off. My thing is though, why all of a sudden, is he cussing me out over that? Why can’t he just say I want to drive to work today? He never has and it has become a habit, so it’s just how it’s been lately. I haven’t even thought anything of it. I don’t know what to do, please someone give me some advice.