My fiancé and I have fallen into a friendship”

I have been with my fiancé for over 7 years. In the beginning, we were madly in love and inseparable. As the years have gone by, I feel like we have fallen into a friendship. I do not ever want to hurt him. I have spoken to him about this before, and he became very upset and didn’t really understand it.

I am finding other people attractive and find myself fantasizing about other men. Recently my ex has come back into my life and has told me he loves me. I have always loved him, but I was hurt so much that I closed that all off. I don’t know what to do. Anyone been in a similar situation?

“My boyfriend is driving me crazy”

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 months. We were going strong. We went to prom together as our first date. We had an amazing relationship at first. But by the second month he started talking to one of his ex-girlfriends. She had moved on and had a boyfriend before he asked me out.

This caused a lot of fights between us. His ex hated me and tried breaking us up multiple times, because her boyfriend also used to like me. Eventually they came to an agreement (without me saying anything) to not talk. So things were fine until his other ex came into the picture. She started taking him on an emotional toll and making him upset all the time, which really made me upset, but i didn’t mention anything. Continue reading

“My girlfriend wants me to fire my coworker”

My long-term relationship girlfriend wants me to fire a coworker. She is devastated, has nightmares, is taking medication… it’s more than jealousy.  I have a good friendship with said coworker and nothing inappropriate has ever happened from either end, but we did become good friends.

We have hung out numerous times in the past, with my girlfriend, as a group. My coworker has a pretty cool group of friends. I connected with her and her friends more than anyone else in this city and I can understand how that could make my girl uncomfortable. Continue reading

“Should I break up with my girlfriend?”

I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for just over a year now and I’m starting to realize that I no longer see a future with her. I try to stay in love, but everyday it seems like an uphill battle.

I have noticed small changes in my attitude as of recently, such as finding other women oddly more attractive than usual, finding myself more impatient and irritated with my girlfriend, and more interested in going out to parties with my friends.

I’m not the type of guy who wants to leave his girlfriend for the hope of a one-night stand or anything sexual, I’m just looking for someone I can see a future with. However, I still have many feelings of compassion for her. I’m afraid that breaking up with her would cause her to perform poorly this semester and that our mutual friends would reject me. I just want her to be happy and us to be nothing more than close friends. Any advice would be extremely helpful, because I don’t want to let these feelings drag on too long.

“I’m in a one-sided relationship”

I have been with my boyfriend, now fiancé, for 5 years. As the years have gone by, I am starting to realize that I end up doing everything for him, and I feel like he has turned me into his mother.

He doesn’t have a job and I am working full time and when I get home from work hardly anything has been done and he is playing games. Then he expects me to cook him dinner because he hasn’t eaten all day while I was gone. He also expects me to make all the important decisions,  then gets so mad at me to the point I am frightened of him, when I don’t tell him when I do something.

What should I do? I feel so exhausted and broken all the time. I’ve asked him to change or at least try harder to do a few things to help out around the house, but he hasn’t. And every time I think of leaving or try to pull away he gets really sweet and caring and then goes right back to the way he was.

“I know my family loves me but I feel nothing”

I need advice because I don’t know how to do this delicately. I am soon to be 18 and without going into specifics,  I plan to move across the country after I graduate High School. In consideration to my mother, I’ve allowed her to still claim that I’m living with her so she receives welfare/death benefits, (my Dad died) even though I moved in with a relative in October.

I am the youngest of a large family but I am totally uninterested in human relationships on a personal level. I can be social and I’m very polite in my interactions but I secretly loathe the necessity. I am a straight A student with skills/love in the arts. I plan work under the table in my relative’s small business, part time, until my graduation but after that I want to cut ties. Now I know from an outside view this is a heartless act – the point is I don’t care. But if there are any mothers or families who’ve experienced a relative cutting ties, I’d be curious how it impacted you. I told my mom I’m leaving but I haven’t said where and I’m not sure if it’s kinder to maintain the facade with other relatives who wish to see me. As I’ve said I can be charming – I know my family loves me but I feel nothing.

“Do we need to move out of my parents’ house?”

I need some advice on how to handle/move forward on a situation.  My husband and I have been living with my parents as we search for our first home. We’ve been married 2+ years and have rented until Nov. 2015 when we moved in with my parents. We were hoping it would be between 6 months to a year for us to pay off some debt, save some money and find our new home.

We have been here now  for 14 months with nice savings in the bank and completely debt free. We’ve looked at houses in and around town. We’ve had nothing but busts. We’ve wasted over $1,000 on inspections and we’re completely frustrated with the process.   Continue reading

“My wife has a slight drinking problem”

My wife has a slight drinking problem. Not an alcoholic but she just can’t control how much she drinks when we’re out with friends. We can’t go out and just have a couple beers or glasses of wine and enjoy an evening.

It starts out as one beer that gets drunk immediately, not chugged, but rapidly drunk, swallow after swallow. It’s like compulsive, it’s there and I have to drink it. Then she needs another one. Can’t just sip and enjoy it, nope, has to consume it because it’s there. About the third beer in, she’s getting intoxicated, but denies it. If I try to get her to slow down, she gets defensive and belligerent. Now it’s up to 5 or 6 beers and she’s loud, belligerent and nasty. We fight and argue about it and go home. Next time we go out I try to get her to control it but it never works, another spoiled evening, because she consumed too much, too fast and will not stop. She usually apologizes the next day and says she won’t do it again. Always does. This is very frustrating. She refuses to get help or counseling as she is convinced in her own mind that everything is fine. What do I do?

“How do I convince my girlfriend to not get a tattoo?”

How do I persuade my girlfriend to not get a tattoo without it making her feel like I’m trying to control her?

My girlfriend has recently brought up her interest of getting a tattoo and as someone who finds tattoos on women to be a real turn off, this is pretty concerning for me. I mean absolutely no offense to girls with tattoos. It’s just not for me. I’m worried it might affect our sexual relationship. I do love my girlfriend a lot but I’m not a very sexually active person as it is. I fear that her getting it would just push my desire to have sex even lower. Continue reading

“Should I go to my sister’s wedding?”

I’m in a long distance relationship and we plan out our visits months ahead of time because we know what long weekends we will have to see each other.

My sister broke up with her boyfriend in August, was dating a new guy two weeks later, and 3 months later in November she was engaged to the new guy. They announced they would be married a year from then. Suddenly in December, they announced they would be getting married in 6 weeks. (Some background… this new boyfriend got her involved in Amway, a company known for its multilevel marketing aka a pyramid scheme.) We did our research and the company works more in your honor as a married couple. So our consensus – they are marrying such short notice because of their jobs BUT they are telling everyone it’s so soon because they want a small wedding with immediate family only. Continue reading