“I’m dating someone for stability”

I’m not claiming to be a great person but I’m dating someone for stability. I didn’t realize that was what I was doing until I really looked at the situation. He has a house that he asked me to move into, I’m saving money, I have a companion, and I get to be closer to my family. Everything sounds good on paper but there are a few downsides.

I’m moving several hours away from where I live for him and the only time I’m really attracted to him is when we’re having sex. He doesn’t give me the emotional support that I’m craving. He was so kind before we started dating but as soon as we put a title on us (which he pushed for) he became distant and cold. He’s one-worded and I feel like he doesn’t care about me. He has no problem going two days without any kind of communication (which is a big deal to me since this is long distance right now.) ¬†When I press him on it, he apologizes and is okay for a day or two before reverting back to old habits. Continue reading

“He hasn’t told me he loves me”

My reason for coming to this site is to get advice on my boyfriend. About four months ago I told him that I loved him with no response back. I thought to myself, this is strange. We do not normally say it, I say it here and there and he will say ‘me too’ or something like that. But, considering we are going on almost two years and he has not said it, has me wondering.

I let it go thinking that I have my Birthday, our Anniversary, and Christmas all within a month. My thought was that he would show me at one of those times how much I and our relationship mean to him. He did take me for a staycation for my Birthday, no real celebration, we were even hanging with his friends and it was never mentioned. So basically, my Birthday, our Anniversary, and Christmas came with no acknowledgment on his part. Continue reading

“I don’t know if I should talk to him about his alcoholism”

I’ve been talking to this guy for a couple of months now. We’re pretty close and both of us have made it clear that we have feelings for each other. It just so happened that in the beginning of us getting to know each other, he had a sort-of/kind-of girlfriend (basically she really liked him and he felt obligated to stay with her and it was super weird.)

They recently ended things and we’ve gotten much closer. While we’re still friends we talk about dating a lot. Well, while at a Basketball tournament, he was caught with a group of our mutual friends drinking in their hotel room and he apparently was the one who somehow got a hold of the beer. He was asked to leave the tournament early and his mom had to drive four hours there and back to get him. (I only know because one of my best friends’ mom told me, not knowing that me and this guy are really close.) Continue reading

“She wants to know if I am willing to change”

My girlfriend went through my phone while I was sleeping, and saw texts I sent to a mutual friend of ours about another girl, whom all three of us know. The texts said how I found her cute and physically attractive and that her demeanor and voice are also attractive.

Obviously when my girlfriend read these it was unsettling and was very wrong on my end. She wants to work on our relationship but it’s hard. She wants to know if I am willing to change and make it work. But I am stuck between breaking up with her because she deserves better than me, or working on things.

“I want to end my relationship”

My boyfriend and I have been together for 6.5 years. We have 2 children, a 4 year old daughter, and 1 year old son. I am completely miserable with him and can’t bring myself to leave. He used to be married to another woman. She cheated and they divorced. A long time ago his mother told me that she was the love of his life and he’d never love anyone like that again. I told him about it and he said it wasn’t true, but honestly who would be dumb enough to say that it is true? Now after going on 7 years and 2 kids, still no proposal, and I’m starting to figure out she was right.

My boyfriend is obviously not very attracted to me, we have sex once a week, if I’m lucky, and the only reason that happens is because I drink enough to initiate it. I’ve lost the ability to try to have sex with him while sober. I know that sounds gross but it gets worse. Continue reading

“I cannot get this girl out of my head”

I met this girl online 4 years ago, when I was 16 and she was 14. I fell in love with her, we talked every day, but never saw each other. She lives in Idaho, I live in Oregon. Back then, we couldn’t see each other cause of the distance, and there was no way our parents would take us to see each other. It was definitely a romantic relationship, she was perfect personality wise, and so beautiful.

After 2 years, we had a falling out, I feel because we literally never saw each other. I didn’t have a job, could barely drive to the store, and tried keeping everything a secret from everybody. She’s legit and real, there’s 100% no chance of her being not who she says she is, we’ve Facetimed, Snapchatted thousands of times, talked/seen many friends + their social medias and everything- she’s real. I still love her, I still care about her, I still think about her not every day, but definitely a lot. We’ve talked on and off ever since, but I haven’t heard from her in at least a
year now. Continue reading

“Is it cheating if I want to kiss another woman?”

Is it cheating if you’re in a normal heterosexual relationship (I’m a woman) and want to kiss another woman? I have these urges!! I know it’s due to my past. I didn’t have a pretty childhood, and hence, now I have tendencies towards woman.

But is it really cheating if you’ve married the man of your life, and he is absolutely incredible, but kissing another woman and daybed flirting turn you on? Is it just from my shorty serial abuse childhood?

Please help me before I make a mistake!

“Should I say ‘I love you’ first?”

We’ve been dating for 7 months now… traveled together many times and everything seems to be fine. I already feel in love with him but never said it. He keeps telling me that he thinks I am a great girl but it’s too early to judge me. He also talks about how he’s not emotional and how he hardly says “I love you” to his family members. Should I go ahead and say it first? In all honesty his actions show that he really cares and does have feelings for me but he never says it straight up.

“I didn’t get much out of our hookup”

I met this guy in a dating app and we had good conversations, so we decided to hang out. I went to his place, we watched a show, cuddled, and later messed around a little bit. Lets just say that it was better for him than it was for me, which is fine. I decided not to stay the night.

The next morning I texted to see if he wanted to hang out again, but he said he didn’t think I would want to, because basically I didn’t get much out of our hookup (due to malfunctions on his end). I said that I didn’t mind because sometimes it’s just awkward the first time with someone. I’ve texted a few times since then but there’s been no reply. What’s up with this? Was it just a hookup?