Category: Advice Needed

“My boyfriend’s ex committed suicide”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now, and I’m absolutely crazy about him. He and I met while we were both in Nashville for music, got coffee and lunch together a couple of times, and just grew really, really close in a short amount of time. He opened up to me, in detail, about his past drug addiction, his exes, etc.

He lives five hours away from me, now. He’s the type to remain friends with everyone, unless they push him out of their lives. Which is great, except for the fact that he still hangs out with two of his exes. Not exclusively, and he’s told me before that he doesn’t have feelings for either of them, and he would never get back together with either girl.

But it still bothers me a little bit. I don’t know. Maybe I’m being jealous? I don’t want to be “that” girlfriend, and I trust him wholeheartedly. I just know what his last ex did to him, and I hate that she expects him to just go on being friends like nothing happened and that he’s willing to do that, for the most part, because he still does want to be friends (since they’re in two bands together).

The biggest issue I have is this:

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“He’s a homebody, and I wanna go out to clubs and hang out”

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I think I want to end my relationship of four-and-a-half years for a coworker who is nine years older than me. I don’t find any excitement in my current relationship, and I feel as if we just go through the motions. We are two different people now, he is a homebody and I wanna go out to the clubs and hang out.

We got together when we were 15, and I think a big part of why we’ve been together so long is to just be able to say we have been together for like ever and because we both have only had sex with each other. I am not saying I want to go a be a hoe, I just wanna have fun and be able to flirt with my coworker and maybe make out.

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“Their baby talk drives me crazy”

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My best friend and her boyfriend hangout 24/7. On top of that already annoying fact, they both speak in baby voices to each other pretty much all the time, which is what I really have the problem with.

It is so unbearably annoying that I become physically mad about it. I become shaky and my heart beats faster when I’m around them. Her cousin thinks its funny and has now joined in with the baby talk. I don’t know what to do because I’m glad that she’s happy with this guy but at the same time, I was to jump off a building when I’m around them.

I feel like I’m going to explode soon, but I don’t know how to say something without sounding like a bitch. I’ve kind of hinted at the fact that I don’t like it, but they don’t stop.

What do I do?

“I’m not ready to say ‘I love you’ back to him”

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So I met this guy a few weeks ago. We met at a bar and we were both a bit drunk. We slept together, sexually and non-sexually, and he made sure I gave him my number. He kept saying he really wanted a text back and for it to not be a one time thing. So we meet up a couple more times, and had sex the first two times we met up again. Since then, it’s mostly been cuddling and talking, with only one other time we’ve had sex, though he kisses and touches a lot. He’s introduced me to his friends, and recently to both his parents. He really wants to meet my parents, recently trying to make arrangements to meet my dad, and wants to meet my son. He’s talked about moving in together, and looking for a place together.

He recently sat down with me and talked about where our relationship heading. We both agreed we liked where we were at, because we both agreed we weren’t ready for anything else. But later, we talked about something that he had hidden from me and said that was why he wasn’t wanting to date seriously. But once he told me about it and I was okay with it, things really changed.

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“My husband hasn’t touched me sexually in five years”

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Need advice! I’m a 55 (young 55) year old woman who is in a bad marriage. My husband hasn’t touched me sexually in 5 years. He does nothing but drink (alcoholic) and watch tv. I take care of every aspect of our life.

Almost 2 years ago I started talking to a guy I went to school with (re-connected at a reunion). Anyway, one thing led to another and now we are in a weird fwb relationship. He is divorced. I have never ever done anything like this – have never cheated on my husband.

I know this is wrong, but for both of us, the sexual chemistry is so strong it’s unbelievable. It’s literally the best sex of our lives. My problem is I’m falling for this guy in a big way.

What should I do? Kl

“I think my boyfriend wants me to be done with him”

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My boyfriend and I have been together for four-and-a-half years. Three-and-a-half of those years have been during college, and the last portion we’ve been long distance. I had been living at home while he was still at school finishing up his degree. This past May he moved back home after finishing school. That’s when I noticed things change.

He was going out with friends more, drinking more, no job, no money, turns out he didn’t have a high enough GPA to graduate. He was texting me less, we were barely sexting anymore or talking about our feelings, but when I had a chance to get him on the phone things seemed normal. When I visited him things were normal. He recently asked for space to figure himself out. He said he still loved me but didn’t know if he still wanted to be in the relationship. He said he didn’t want to see other people, but he wanted time to figure himself out.

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“Whenever I’m not with him, our relationship feels like a lie”

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I’m a 20 year old female in a relationship. We’ve been together for two months, which seems like a short amount of time, but it feels like forever.

For the first month being together, I would be with him mainly the whole day. He recently got a second job, so we don’t see each other as much anymore. I know that he loves me and whenever we are together I feel it.

It’s something so special, but every time I’m not with him, I feel like it’s all a lie. I don’t know if it’s because I got used to seeing him every day, or if it because I’m so insecure. How do I shake the feeling off and not over-think things?

“I cheated on my boyfriend”

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I cheated on my boyfriend who I’ve been with for five years with one of his friends.
His friend told me months ago he wishes he met me first and how much he liked me. I have slowly been developing feelings for him too, and we ended up having sex. We both instantly felt like garbage afterwards, and we both agreed not to say anything to anyone.

Me and the boyfriend have been doing ok – we live together and I feel we’ve gotten too comfortable with each other. I don’t feel attracted to him as much as I did. I do a lot around the house and pay most of the bills – I sometimes feel like I “take care” of him a lot (he is a couple years younger).

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“I don’t want to go on holiday with my wife’s elderly parents”

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My wife of 12 years is angry because I don’t want to go on holiday with her elderly parents. The thing is, we have already been away once this year, have another holiday next week with grandkids and another for me and her at new year. She doesn’t even have to work as I give her money every month, too.

It’s not just down to cost either, as I can’t stand her parents. They constantly bicker and have really bad and embarrassing manners. Wife is saying that they are old now and may not have many more holidays but her mum goes on about 3 or 4 holidays every year anyway. I feel like I am being blackmailed. Am I being unreasonable?