Category: Advice Needed

“I apologize for things that aren’t my fault”

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over four years. I am always the fixer, which means whether it’s my fault or his, I go to him first to fix any problems we have. Always. He hardly apologizes when he’s wrong and I apologize too much when it’s not my fault.

Tonight, we went out for some drinks and took an Uber. On our way back to the house, we accidentally got in the wrong Uber. The driver asked for his name, he said his name and confirmed. We hopped in. I guess the driver didn’t hear the name correctly. Almost home, we realized this mistake; the driver was a total asshole, and said pay cash or get out. Neither of us had cash so we got out. We made a report to Uber since we were stranded at midnight on the side of the road. We called another and finally made it. Immediately he placed a complaint with Uber. He said he wanted to file a police report and say the Uber driver was drunk driving or speeding and driving recklessly. Continue reading →

“My parents are kicking me out of the house, and I have nowhere to go”

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In May of 2015, my boyfriend of three years broke up with me. He was my best friend, and he stopped talking to me altogether. The stress and emotional turmoil on top of my depression and anxiety caused me to have to go to the hospital for mental instability. This was the year I graduated high school.

That summer I got better (mainly by being so high on the medicines from the hospital) that I went off to college that fall. The work load was so much on top of being drugged out of my mind that I physically could not do it, and to get a medical withdrawal, I had to go back to the hospital. Ever since, then my parents have bitched about me going back, but I don’t know what to do with my life, and I don’t want to waste my time or money to not do anything with a bullshit degree.

Ever since I dropped out I have had a job. In May of 2016, I tried to move out because of my parents being the abusive asshats they are, and my mom sent me to the hospital because “I obviously had to be crazy to not live with her.”

Once I got out, I still lived with the guy I was with, but two months later things didn’t work out, so I moved back in. I started dating one of my coworkers (let’s call him Jim) and we both got fired. I really loved Jim and he seemed to love me too. He lived with his mom, stepdad, and four siblings. We both found other jobs and he didn’t live far from me. Continue reading →

“My partner thinks I’m a fool for believing in mythical creatures”

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Please help settle this tiff between this couple:

“Realist” says:

My partner believes in elves and fairies and other mythical creatures as if they’re real beings interacting with us all the time — usually unseen but sometimes physically manifest. I don’t believe that to be real. I was testing just how committed to their belief they were, and after laughing at the idea that someone would actually believe something like this, we promptly began arguing about whether I was open-minded enough to be in this relationship.

“Believer” says:

I believe anything is possible, even things society says are not real. I believe that there are many unseen forces in the world – call them angels or fairies or whatever, I believe that these things are real and I know I’m not alone, people are afraid to talk about it because we’re afraid of being judged. My partner thinks I’m a fool for believing this and I don’t know if I can be in a relationship with someone who is so “mainstream” and unwilling to try on new ideas. When someone laughs at my beliefs I think that is a big red flag.

What do you think? Who do you side with, and what should they do?

“I don’t know how to share my feelings with anyone”

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Okay, so, me and my best friend are super close, we tell each other everything and we’re both fairly open, but when it comes to my feelings, I shut everyone out. I feel like I’m ruining people’s days by telling them my troubles. I don’t know what to do. I can’t even tell my best friend how I feel. I feel like I want to change my personality because everyone thinks I’m weird. i don’t know how to do it . 😦

“How do I come out about being a crossdresser?”

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I am a 65-year-old crossdresser. I do not identify as a woman most of the time, and yet there is a feminine side to me that I do not get to express as fully as I believe that I should. I have crossdressed for many years, but only in the last few have I tried to get more serious with it, now that I have retired. Basically, I have begun very carefully trying to take my dressing more public. I believe that I should be able to express my feminine side without reprisal and hopefully without concern.

My dilemma is this. I want to tell my dentist about my dressing, in order to see if she would support my desire to come to the appointments dressed as a female from this point forward. I don’t want to harm my relationship with my dentist, but I am hopeful that she would encourage me to dress as I want. My thinking is that once I have crossed this bridge and agreed to always come dressed as a woman from now on that it will provide me with a true success in my quest to become accepted dressed as a woman. Continue reading →

“How do I make guys like me?”

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I am a teenage girl. I get straight A’s and I am pretty smart. I am not that popular, but have over 700 followers on Instagram. I have a small group of friends, and a really close best friend. I have had crushes on some boys, one knows that I used to like him. But in general, I am pretty. I am proud of the way I am. I am quiet and patient but sometimes fun and outgoing.

I want to talk to more boys and get to have more guy friends. I feel like they only talk to the popular, fun, or outgoing girls. When guys sit next to me, we have a lot of fun. I love to talk about sports, and other stuff you can relate too. Sadly, we don’t have that connection outside of class. Even though I am happy about the way I look, how do I make guys like me?

“Everyone thinks we’re perfect for each other, but he has a girlfriend”

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I think he likes me, but he has a girlfriend who’s also my friend. What to do?

Me and this guy have been close friends for 2 years now. His girlfriend and I have been classmates for almost 7 years, but she and I aren’t very close.

The guy and I have almost everything in common. We’re like two sides of the same coin. Everyone thinks we’re nice together. One day he just came and was like, “aye, my mom thinks I like you.”

Like always, we laughed it out. Then another time, he was like, “so I was talking with someone and they was like I’m your perfect match.”

And again, I laughed it out. All his friends think we’re perfect. We love the same things. But, he has a girlfriend. They constantly argue. They do have one or two good moments, but it’s mostly arguments. Continue reading →

“I get nauseous every time we get sexual”

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I need help. So I’ve been seeing this girl for months now and everything with her is perfect, until we get into the bedroom. Every time without fail anything gets even remotely sexual with her, I start to feel REALLY nauseous, to the point where I have on multiple occasions run off and had to throw up. It could be anything from fooling around on the couch, to even just lying next to her in bed.

We’re both virgins, but want to get into the more real stuff soon. I’m worried this will get in the way, and could use some advise. I’m a perfectly healthy person, and it is in fact rare for me to be ill or to throw up, so this is all really confusing for me. Might be worth mentioning I get this feeling when I’m with her in a restaurant too, and we’re just finishing food, a very sudden nausea feeling which I can’t ignore and am forced to run off quickly to the toilet.