I met this really cool guy on Periscope a couple of weeks ago. We texted a lot, Facetimed, and we really vibed. So we decided to meet up and hang out this past week. It was cold and rainy so I told him he can just come over to my house. We hung out in the living room, watched basketball, talked, etc. Then it started getting really flirty so he moved in for a kiss. We literally made out for the next couple hours, him just holding me in his arms and showering me with kisses. So sweet.
Now here’s the dilemma. Yes, I like him a lot and he wants to hang out again BUT he’s 21 and I’m 28. Is that too much of a big difference? He says he doesn’t care about my age and he seems pretty mature, but guys are really good at saying exactly what you want to hear. I even told him I was concerned that we don’t want the same things, and he said “What do you want? A family? How do you know I don’t want the same thing? I’ve had my fun and I’m looking forward.” I just left the conversation as is because I really didn’t want to get too deep, too serious, too quick.
Should I give it a chance? Just let things unfold? Or should I just back off? I mean I fall for people really hard and I don’t want to get hurt again. I’m still trying to get over my ex too, who so happens to be a really close friend of mine. My friends are giving me mixed feelings. Some think I should give him a chance, some think I should run, and some think I should just talk to him to get over my ex.
Ugh this is extremely frustrating. I’m freaking 28 and can’t handle simple dating!
Rule of thumb: half your age plus seven is the youngest you should date, so he fits right in there. If you feel it’s right go for it. Only you know for certain. He may be a very mature 21 year old for all us strangers on the internet who have never met either of you know.
Go for it. Follow your intuition. You will know when/if things takes a turn for the worst. I say be open, honest and upfront with him about what you want out of it. Take things slow and see how it goes.
This not that huge of an issue. I would go for it if you feel like you have a connection. Just take things slow, and make sure that it’s something suitable for you.