Hello, I am seeking advice on a daughter-in-law problem. Ann is not really our daughter-in-law. She is a pregnant girlfriend who lives in a small rented house with my never-been-married, 35-year-old, no-ambition, lazy, but sweet stepson. She has a five-year-old darling daughter from a previous marriage.
My husband and I have a daughter together, 30, but she is in no hurry to have children. This child would be our — but technically his — first grandchild. He is almost 60 and is overjoyed about the pregnancy. We only learned about this and met her four months ago. She is presently 6 months along.
She seems nice on the surface, but I have only been around her three times, and only a couple of hours each time. My problem is this: during these four months, she has texted my husband about five times and sent photos of her daughter. The daughter is not his granddaughter and she has not texted or sent photos to me (not that I want her to).
My husband has been financially generous to them lately because of the pregnancy, and I think her chummy behavior toward my husband is about money that she might want to ask for in the future. When we heard that she was pregnant, I said, “Your Dad will spoil her.”
My stepson replied, “That’s what we’re counting on.”
His financially rich mother finally had enough of his bumming money. Now he and his girlfriend, I suspect, plan to milk his Dad.
Do you think that it is inappropriate for her to text him that much? I am uncomfortable with it, and I have expressed my feeling to my husband, but he doesn’t see it my way. Thank you in advance for any advice.