I have been dating my girlfriend for four and a half years. We are now both sophomores that attend different colleges (about an hour and a half away from each other). I can’t seem to tell if I have just grown comfortable with a relationship of over four years, or if I really do still want to be with her.
In addition, we have so many other ties to each other that are making this decision extremely difficult. We share the same friend group back home, I practically grew up with her, my family pretty much already considers her my future wife, and I am also fairly close to her family.
I recently met another girl (a senior) in one of my classes, who I am pretty much infatuated with. We talk regularly, and I am not sure what to do. Also, I know this is wrong of me, but this new girl isn’t even more attractive than my current girlfriend. There is just something about her that I am completely driven to pursue.
She has a particular vibe that makes me feel the way I felt when I first started dating my current girlfriend. First of all, she is a senior and I am a sophomore, so that may cause complications after she graduates. Also, my current girlfriend imagines us getting married, but I feel as though I am a bit young to truthfully consider that right now. The worst part is I have made our relationship appear as though nothing is wrong, and we are doing just fine, while at the same time I am battling with this internal conflict.
I am stuck and don’t know what the right thing to do is. What if I break up with the girl I’ve known my whole life, get with the new girl I have met, and find out she is not what I expected? I am thinking about the “grass is always greener on the other side” argument. I know it is wrong to make sure I have one foot secured in one boat before I step into another, but over the last couple weeks this is where I have found myself. I am not sure what kind of responses I will receive, but i figured any response is better than none. Thank you guys.