I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now, and up until April, everything was great. He made me feel so happy and relaxed — he’s a super great guy! But, in April, he left to go back home a few states away, and stayed there for about 2 1/2 months.
We texted sometimes, but never had full conversations. I only missed him occasionally. When he initially told me he’d be gone for so long, I was a wreck, but when the time came, I was totally fine. Now that he’s back, he’s living with me and my friends until he finds a new place with his friends.
Things haven’t really been the same. I can’t stop questioning if I want to keep dating him or not. I do like him a lot for sure, he’s always respected my boundaries and opinions, and even though I’m asexual (and he’s got a high sex drive) he’s never forced me into feeling like I need to do things with him. When he does make little advances, I don’t feel uncomfortable, but I don’t exactly want to do it nor do I find it necessary in a relationship.
I’ve told him that I’ve been concerned about it before, and he’s never really given me a solid response — just things along the lines of “we’ll cross that bridge when we get there.” It doesn’t help that in another year, when we graduate college, our lives will be taking different paths.
Am I concerned about continuing to date him because I know it’s going to end anyway? Because I don’t see a future with him? I think I’d still like to date him, but I’m not sure if the romantic attraction is there anymore. He deserves a lot more than me, and I want him to be happy. I almost wish that he’d break up with me and find someone more suited to his needs.