“I’ve got feelings for my friend-with-benefits”

I have had a ‘Friend with Benefits’ for about 5-6 months. We became friends at work. Since we are coworkers and know our associates gossip like its their mission on earth,  we have decided to keep our personal business very hush-hush.

He’s the first guy I’ve ever been with and…. as cliches would have it, against my own better judgement, I developed some serious feelings for him. In my defense, though, I’m pretty positive he’s caught some feelings as well… at least…. for a while, it seemed like it.

The problem is, that when he was acting like he wanted more than sex and being extra attentive and intimate,and we were starting to interact more like a couple I got overwhelmed and pushed him away out of fear and because I believed that we were not compatible for an actual relationship. Continue reading

“My best friend and I have feelings for the same guy”

I think I’m starting to have feelings for a guy I’ve been friends with for a while. I suppose it was inevitable; he’s the type of person who is playful and easy to talk to. I genuinely love spending time with him.

Here lies the problem. My best friend has had feelings for him for the past 2 years. I know, at first glance it sounds like a cliche romance plot. But it isn’t a joke anymore whenever I have to listen to her talking about how amazing, kind, beautiful he is and having to say things like, “you’d be perfect for each other”.

I tried to repress my feelings at first, knowing it would end up like this. But I can’t stay away, no matter how hard I try to keep him at arms length. His personality just draws me in. Thankfully I only see him a few times a week since we have different classes, but I know that if I allow myself to get closer, I will fall for him.

I’m beginning to get too nervous to talk to him, because I know she is around somewhere and will start to suspect something is going on if she sees us laughing and joking around like children, which is what our conversations inevitably end in.

I don’t know what to do. Does it make me a terrible person? And before you go to answer that question with “no”, think about the fact that I might actually have a chance with him if I tried (that’s what his friends have hinted at) and I would be taking away her dream guy. Advice would be greatly appreciated.

(P.s. Sorry for the length. This is the first time I’ve opened up about this so it’s more of a rant :-))

“My boyfriend won’t let me meet his parents”

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now. In that time I have let him into every detail of my life, but he has been private about his own. We have quite a big age difference — I’m 19, he’s 29, and that’s fine — but sometimes it feels like I’m the more mature one. He won’t let me meet his parents, he doesn’t let me even hold his phone even when he’s driving, he’s doing up his house to rent it and won’t let me go and even see that.

His dad is in poor health, so he sleeps over at his house every Saturday night, then sneaks out at about 4 am like a teenage girl! I understand his dad is ill but it’s weird — he’s nearly 30 for christ’s sake! I don’t understand what else I can do. I thought meeting the parents etc was a normal part of relationships? This is my first long-term serious relationship and I really don’t know what to do. Continue reading