Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year now. In that time I have let him into every detail of my life, but he has been private about his own. We have quite a big age difference — I’m 19, he’s 29, and that’s fine — but sometimes it feels like I’m the more mature one. He won’t let me meet his parents, he doesn’t let me even hold his phone even when he’s driving, he’s doing up his house to rent it and won’t let me go and even see that.
His dad is in poor health, so he sleeps over at his house every Saturday night, then sneaks out at about 4 am like a teenage girl! I understand his dad is ill but it’s weird — he’s nearly 30 for christ’s sake! I don’t understand what else I can do. I thought meeting the parents etc was a normal part of relationships? This is my first long-term serious relationship and I really don’t know what to do.
Secondly, he’s always so busy at his other house that we haven’t had sex now in about 2 weeks — that might not sound so bad but we used to have sex a lot and there’s just been this steady decline over the months. I ask him if he’s happy and if he’s still attracted to me, and he says yes, but all he ever wants to do is cuddle. He won’t go down on me, he doesn’t kiss me beyond a peck on the lips — it makes me feel anxious because I feel like there’s something wrong with me. I don’t want his stress over his house and his dad to ruin our relationship, but our intimacy is in decline and I’m so worried. I can’t bear the thought of losing him, I love him so much.