“He’s been messaging other women on Craigslist”

My previous ex had a relationship with a girl,  the last 2 years of our relationship. So I’ve always been “on guard” with all relationships after that one.

I found a guy who experienced a similar issue with his ex wife (outside relationships discovered via text msg,) so I felt good going in. I recently discovered that he’s been messaging girls/couples on Craigslist when I’m not staying over at his place. I can go into why I know this, but just know it wasn’t due to over snooping on his devices.

I don’t know how to bring it up to him. I want to because since I figured it out, I’ve made every excuse I can think of for us not to have sex for fear of transmittal. What is hard too, is I love him. He’s an amazing partner, if I didn’t know this was happening behind the scenes. Help please? Is there a way back from this?

“My ex and I are still in love”

My ex and I are still in love…five years after the breakup. We have both been in serious relationships since then but reach out to each other every few months to let the other know our feelings haven’t changed.

We now live in different states and have our own friends and careers, making getting back together very difficult. The unwillingness to let each other go is preventing us from completely committing to new relationships and causes insecurity in our new partners. What should we do?

“I like a girl, but she’s not ready for a relationship”

I have a friend who I have recently really started to like. I have been fighting it for quite some time now. However, I have told her that I like her and she has also told me that she likes me a lot. She will not let herself get into a relationship. She has told me she has this thing, where she requires physical aspects of a relationship, like hugs, cuddling, and kisses, but can’t do a relationship because she will just hurt people.

The part that is hard to swallow is that she can’t pursue someone she really likes, but can have physical relations with basically anyone, just because she needs it. Part of me tells me to just walk away, but I just can’t. She is perfect and there is no one out there like her. Some days I wish I had never even met her because then I could sleep at night. What do I do? Wait until she’s ready? Forget her all together and ruin the friendship? Stay friends and endure pain every time we talk or see each other? Someone please give me some insight…

“I have feelings for my best friend”

Hi, I have a problem and I was wondering if I could get peoples’ honest opinions about it, because honestly, I am utterly horrible with relationships and feelings, and I figured there are likely people out there with more experience and relationship smarts than me. I honestly feel kind of stupid for going somewhere for advice because I’ve always been the kind of person to keep my problems to myself, but this has been going on for about a year and I guess I’m just tired of not knowing what to do.

So, anyway, here goes. My best friend and I go way back – we’ve known each other since before we went into elementary school. But, in this last year or so, I’ve been starting to finally realize that I’ve been starting to like her as more than friends. Continue reading

“My boyfriend says I deserve better than him”

My boyfriend and I have been together for seven years. I am still madly in love with him, but lately he has been doubting our future. He says that he has fears and doubts about our future together, but right now he still loves me.

He believes that I deserve better than him because he thinks he cannot give me the things I want from life. I disagree because he is everything I ever wanted and more. The thought of us not being together makes me sick to my stomach. Part of me is wondering if this is just phase he is going through that will pass over time, but another part of me is worried that all this questioning will cause more problems.

Continue reading