“I’ve convinced myself that nobody I want, will ever want me”

Two weeks ago my boyfriend of 4 months broke up with me, (a short relationship but I thought it was going well). Since then I’ve convinced myself that nobody I want, will ever want me. I’ve had the worst luck ever with guys this past year and am afraid it’ll continue. Help!

2 thoughts on ““I’ve convinced myself that nobody I want, will ever want me”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Time to take some time off dating and focus on you. What do YOU want out of life? What do YOU want out of a man? These are only answers you can answer, but you need time off the dating scene to focus on you to learn them.

  2. therapyinsdcom says:

    According to cognitive behavioral theory, the thoughts we pay attention to are what we become. For example, if you are on a gorgeous beach but you are so concerned that you’re going to step on rock, all you’ll see are the rocks and miss the sounds of the waves, maybe a few dolphins, and even the hotties walking by that are checking you out!

    It’s human nature to look for danger/things that hurt us. We have to make special efforts to look for the positive, especially right after a ego bending event like a breakup. One way to feel better when you’re down is to focus on behaviors instead of feelings and thoughts- if you pretend you’re all that, after time your mind will follow! Want more info? Here’s an article I wrote a while ago about this very topic: http://therapyinsd.com/2014/01/24/cognitive-behavioral-therapy

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