“My boyfriend thinks I was on a date”

Hi, I have a question. Is it wrong to eat out and watch a movie with a good friend, which is a guy, even though you have a boyfriend? Does that pass boundaries? Because my boyfriend got totally pissed. He’s aware that I was going to eat out with my male high school friend.. but he got pissed when he found out we were going to watch a movie, where he perceives the situation as if it was more of a “date” then a “hang-out”… Help!

 

“I’m pregnant with a felon’s baby”

I need some advice. Sorry in advance, its pretty long.

Back Story: I met a man in January of 2017 and for the sake of discretion we will call him…Shawn. I met him through work. I am the secretary for the company I work for. I work in the office at a cleaning company, and he got hired as a cleaner. It’s just a small cleaning company and almost 100% of our employees are felons or have done jail time at some point in their life and our company is one of the few that hires “jail birds”. As the secretary, all of the workers/cleaners (mostly men) know me and are very protective of me in a sense, since they are all older men (40+) and I am 23. This particular man got hired in late January of 2017, almost 1 year ago. He was 39, I was 22. For some odd reason, I became immediately attracted to him. He was fine as hell, for a 40 year old man. Even though I knew he was a felon, even though I knew he didn’t have shit to his name, didn’t have a car or money or his own place, even though I knew he had been in and out of jail and prison since he was pretty much 18, even though something about him seemed a little….not right, we started messing around. Discreetly, of course…because, duh, I’m the company secretary, I would die if any other employees found out. Continue reading

“Do I tell him I miscarried his baby?”

Around two years ago, my fiance (now husband, lets call him Joe) and I broke up and shortly after, I started seeing another guy. He was married, but separated, and there was an undeniable spark and attraction between us from the second we met. I was madly in love with him (lets call him Will), and if I’m honest, I still have very strong feelings for him. Very long story short: some complications came up with his wife and son and custody/divorce so we stopped dating. The last thing I wanted was to cause an issue with his son.

After we stopped dating, I was devastated and knew that Joe would take me back and we could be some kind of happy (which we are). This all happened within 4 months or so. The issue is that shortly after I married my husband (a month or so) I discovered that I was pregnant with Will’s child. A girl. We had talked about kids in the hope that one day we might have one together and we both wanted a little girl to share our lives with. And just after I learned the gender, I had a miscarriage. I’m still so heartbroken over it. I want to tell Will what happened, but it’s been so long and I’m married and he is seeing someone else… I just don’t know what to do. I feel so alone. No one knows except me and I feel like he deserves to know, but at the same time I don’t want to cause trouble with his girlfriend. What do I do?

 

“I love another guy”

I desperately need help. I have loved one guy in my life but he never wanted to commit. We had a breakup and I got married. But we never lost contact. Every time I spoke to him, he expressed how much he still loved me. I ignored it as much as I could, but could never stop myself from not talking to him. Now I feel, I am falling in love with him again. How can I let go of him forever? I confessed my love to him and asked him to help me by not contacting me , but he still wants to be friends with me . How should I get out of this situation?

“I’m fantasizing about another man”

I have a problem.. so I’ve been with my bf for a while now, we dated for 7 months, broke up for a while, and now we’re back together for almost 6 months. I got back with him because I thought I loved him, but recently I feel like our relationship is falling apart.

Everything he does annoys me and makes me feel unwanted and I keep fantasizing about another man, and I also want to talk/tell everything to the other man instead of my boyfriend. I don’t know what this means considering I haven’t talked to the other man in six months since me and bf got back together, so why am I thinking about him so much now? And what do I do about my boyfriend? I’m so confused and I don’t want to leave him because I feel like I’m making the wrong decision. Please help!

 

“I want to break up with him, but he pays my bills”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years now. We took a break a few months ago and I started seeing someone else. I fell in love with the other guy, we had the same goals but the other guy just wasn’t stable. He did drugs and was unemployed, but we clicked.

I got back with my boyfriend and the other guy was devastated, and honestly I was too, but I also loved my boyfriend a lot and the plan was always to just be a break. Anyways, a few months have passed and I just don’t feel the same way about my boyfriend anymore. I still love him a lot and the thought of not being with him hurts like hell, but I can’t be intimate with him without thinking about the other guy.

I feel so guilty, and I know I should probably break up with him, but he pays most of my bills and I’m working part time so I can finish school. Without my boyfriend, I wouldn’t be able to work things out financially. I don’t want to keep delaying this break up… but I don’t know what else to do.

 

“An old flame blew me off, now he’s back in my life”

When I was younger I had a relationship with someone who I was pretty deeply into. While I know it was never anything extremely serious at the time, I held out hope that it would turn into something more.

Back then I worked at a bar and my friend, we’ll call him Manny, came in one night to hang out while I worked, so I started a tab for him so he could have a couple drinks and chill. I came by to check on Manny after a while and he mentioned that he was getting tired and was thinking about heading home in a bit. I offered to come by when I got off of work and he assured me that he would probably be asleep by then so it might not be a good idea, and then he got up, excused himself and went to the restroom. While he went to answer nature’s call, I went to settle the tab and my friend behind the bar was adamant that I was NOT paying for the tab. Continue reading

“I kissed another guy”

Okay well… I’m gonna start with the fact that I am in a relationship and have been for 2 years. We have had a lot of problems, as he was being inappropriate with another girl for half of our relationship over text.

I recently went to a Villa my family own and met this guy, he is 8 years older than me and also has a partner. Well, the night before I came home, he came to say goodbye as my family get along with him and works at our favourite bar. Long story short he kissed me… he cuddled me and held me. It felt nice, I felt something for this guy and he’s now telling me we can only ever be friends?

I feel disgusted by what I’ve done to my partner but I haven’t had any affection in months and it felt nice but now this guy has thrown it in my face. What do I do? I love my boyfriend but I’m not sure if it’s right anymore, and I haven’t stopped thinking about this guy.

 

“My wife and I are fighting over another guy”

My wife and I have been fighting over an issue that came up a while back. It was brought to my attention that a friend of hers seemed overly “friendly” when I wasn’t around. This, coupled with some things that I saw in their interactions, made me confront her and ask why someone thought this.

She immediately took his side and began defending him and their relationship. The fight progressed into a huge fight in which I asked her “do you care more about his feelings than mine?” Her answer was YES, I was completely floored by this and could not believe she would say that to me.

Since then we have several altercations and every time it ends the same, she acts like my feelings are not important and his are. I feel like there is something going on at a subconscious level, as I do trust her and we both work too much to have any time to mess around with somebody else? So how do I let go of how this makes me feel, she has apologized and I believe she is? HELP

“I have a gay crush”

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. Recently, there’s this new guy who is a total sweetheart and I catch myself thinking about him from time to time. We’ve become good friends for the past few months and I’ve been having these “what ifs”.

I’ve told my boyfriend about my conflicted feelings and he says he’ll stand by decision regardless, which makes me feel all the more guilty. I would really like to be rid of this ridiculous crush once and for all but I don’t know how.