“I cheated because we never have sex”

So here’s the thing. I have a boyfriend. We’ve been together for 7 years and I truly love him, he’s my best friend. My problem is, we’re pretty much just friends. The intimacy is gone. On his end. He doesn’t want to have sex anymore, and even the rare occasion it does happen, it’s like a chore for him and I’m always left wanting more.

He’s gained some weight (which I find sexy af) and is very stressed out, which I’m sympathetic to. I just need some kinda intimacy in my life. I’ve tried to discuss it after about 2 years of unsatisfaction, he won’t even tell me exactly what he’s going through or how to help. He’s even gotten angry when I pushed this discussion.

I’ll be honest, its led me to infidelity. I don’t wanna leave him, I love him more than I’ve every loved anyone, but like everyone, once in a while, I feel starved for emotional AND physical affection, and I’ve strayed to an ex who I know still loves me. I always feel like shit after, but 6 months later I’m calling that side man.

Should I let him go, or stick it out?

 

“I don’t know how to deal with her ex’s”

Hi, I am a 26 year old man, I have recently entered what I believe to be and would like to be a serious relationship. I have some issues that I don’t know how to address. My new girlfriend is pretty good to me and seems to be loyal to the relationship.

That being said, there are several of her past intimate partners that she doesn’t want to let go of. I’m not normally a jealous person, but I’ve also never had to deal with this issue before. The primary issue is that most of her previous partners were friends of hers long before the intimacy started, and have remained friend’s after.

My issue is that when I mention having an issue with them still being around her and communicating with her, I always get excuses and reasons why I shouldn’t worry. Am I wrong for having a problem? Or is she wrong for keeping them around knowing that its an issue for me?

 

“My marriage I would rate a 1 out of 10”

I am 46 and married with one son, who is 8. My wife and I started dating back in 1989. We have been together without separation since 1989, after 16 years of dating and about 10 years of engagement. We married in 2005. My son was born in 2008. We live a good life, not perfect but pretty comfortable.

My wife is a 10 out 10 as a mother. Very caring and responsible with our son and we raise him together and have a strong family bond. We eat dinner together every night and we spend time together as a family in the most healthy way any good American family does. My only pain is my marriage. Continue reading