“I’m regretting rejecting him”

About 7 months ago, this guy friend of mine asked me out. I said ‘no’ because I was really into someone else, and I was very stressed and busy with school. We remained friends however, and I was happy for him when he started dating someone else about a month later.

Now, however, I am starting to have feelings for him, but he’s still with the other girl. Also, even if he were single, how could I go about letting him know that I’m interested, since I already rejected him once?

“My mom is worried about me having guy friends”

First of all let me just say that I’m an Indian. So basically some parents in our society (like my parents) don’t approve of girls having guy best friends. And I’m sick of all the shit my mom talks about boys like a small child.

One of my best friends who is a boy is so close to me, he knows everything about me. I’m so fucking irritated and idk what to do. She thinks about what others who see me and a boy together, will think. She goes like ” even if I know that you two (me and my guy best friend) are just friends, others won’t know that.”

AAAGHHHH! I don’t know how to convince my mom to allow me to be friends with guys too. Please help!

“Did I cause their break-up?”

I don’t know if it was directly my fault, but I might have just influenced a couple to break up.

So, a little background first. My guy friend, N, and I have been pretty close for about 6 months now. We only met last August, so our friendship got deep pretty fast. He’d been seeing this girl for about 3 months in private, she’s part of our friend group and neither of them wanted to stir up drama. He told me about the relationship a while back and I supported it, even though I kind of like him. Which is why this next part gets a little weird, and lines get blurred.

This past weekend, there was a party at my house for my friends and me, about 24 of us, to drink and have a laugh and fall asleep in a tent (not important to this story but still cool) and N was there. He and I stuck around each other the whole night, I was stressing out and he was just trying to keep me from having a panic attack. At about 2:30 everyone is either in the bed or has gone home (some didn’t want to sleep over) and it’s just me and N in the house. Continue reading

“My soulmate isn’t interested in me”

I don’t know what this means! I’ve been friends with this guy for 7 years and we’re very close. We talk on the phone every night and discuss our feelings and problems. The other night we were talking about soul mates. And he said he didn’t think their was one person for him. And I said you mean like you can’t find someone who can speak to your soul, but make you laugh and in the same breath? To which he replied well, the only person is you, so unless you clone yourself…and then he trailed off.

I really don’t know what to think. I’ve shown interest towards him in the past and he has always turned me down. I don’t know what to think…

“It kills me that my friend is dating my crush”

I’ve been spending a lot of time with this new group of people that I really enjoy hanging out with, which is great because I had been feeling a little bit insecure with my friend group before I met them.

One of them I have become very close to, and one of the others is a boy I used to have a VERY MINOR crush on in tenth grade. It turns out he’s a great guy, and I felt myself becoming attracted to him again, but he started dating another girl (who I am friendly with) and when that went south and he was a mess, and I comforted him often.

My other friend, Elaine, who I’ve become close to, confessed to me that she had feelings for him, and I told her it was understandable. They are now seeing each other and it kills me a little. I know what I have to do, but I’d love some confirmation. Thank you internet.

“I moved and now my best friend doesn’t talk to me”

Not too long ago, about last year, I moved away from my hometown. I, sadly, had to leave behind almost everything I knew from the country, and settle for a city home. Back home I had a best friend – the one and only person I could confide in, and be my pure self around. I was sure that we would stay close – but I was wrong.

She never called, never returned my calls, and never visited. Slowly, I lost all hope that I would remain friends with this person. During the summer I made a new REALLY close friend, only to have HIM move away at the end of the summer. Now I am really wanting my best friends back – so I need double advice. Continue reading

“My intuition has been pulling me in a direction but I’ve been fighting it”

I have been with my kid’s father for almost 5 years, but broke up after 2 years and then got back together to work things out. We broke up because he said what he was looking for wasn’t me, but then we tried to make it work again and this time around things were going so well.

Then slowly but surely, things have gone back to what it was before. He makes me feel like I’m not doing enough in the relationship and at home. I’m a stay at home mom of 3 kids and I’ve only stopped working for a year to care for our 4 year old and 11 month old twin girls. Continue reading