Tag: friends

“Am I being unreasonable about this guy?”

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This is a long post, but it’s a long story.

I recently moved back to my hometown after a few years. I also started talking to my ex boyfriend and after a lot of misunderstanding had reached a happy plateau of agreeing to hang out occasionally and as he put it ‘get to know’ one another again. Parallel to this he also in love with a girl at his work who doesn’t seem to reciprocate his feeling and has heavily put him into the friend zone. So I assumed it was safe to build a friendship.  Continue reading →

“What happened to the chemistry we had?”

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I come from a fairly conservative household. I met “M” on POF and quickly discovered we had ties. Since I lived in an area where there were a lot of us of the same culture, his family and my family had a distant friendship.

He said he was looking for marriage, as was I. We hit it off and started speaking on Whatsapp. Soon after he began to tell me how God answered his prayers sending me, how we meshed so well and how he could not wait to take me home. Continue reading →

“She is skeptical of my trustworthiness”

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I’ve been single for a few years now, but I’m talking with a girl, Lauren, who I was really good friends with a few years ago. We’ve hung out a few times but nothing more than a hug and no serious dates.

I met her years before through my then girlfriend, Sam. I will admit, I cheated on Sam one time when I kissed another girl. It was a mistake and we made up and continued our relationship for more than a year after, but now Lauren found out that I cheated, not knowing really what happened, and is understandably skeptical of my trustworthiness. I have fallen completely in love with Lauren but don’t know how to prove to her that I’ve changed for the better.

“I’m scared that it could be depression”

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Over the last few days, I’ve become reluctant to hang out with my friends. To all intents and purposes, I’m an extrovert, and I love being the center of attention. However, when I was invited to a sleepover at my closest friend’s house, I was dreading going for some reason, even after I got there.

When I got there, I was very quick to retreat into a shell of self-isolation. I don’t think I talked to anyone substantially with the exception of one friend at the sleepover. Having said that, the only things I really talked about with her was her new boyfriend and how much I didn’t want to be at the sleepover. Continue reading →

“I want to be more than just friends”

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I met my best guy friend, J, in February through match.com. We immediately clicked, had common interests, similar morals, and communicate well. We both are interested in each other, but he does not want to jeopardize our great relationship that we have as friends.

A lot of it has to do with his prior relationships and being hurt by them; and also them never speaking to him since. He doesn’t want that to happen with us. He also has episodes of clinical depression which contributes to this thinking of his. His last relationship ended a little over a year ago and lasted 8 years. My last relationship was over 3 years ago and I’ve dated a lot if anyone was wondering. I feel like he is what I’ve been looking for. I am 34 and he is 32, so we are not teenagers or in our early 20s either. I want to keep him in my life and will stay friends with him, but does anyone think there is a chance he will change his mind in the future?

“I don’t feel like my boyfriend appreciates me”

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We are in a long distance relationship for the summer and he rarely makes time for me. He says we should Skype but when I bring it up he always has a reason to blow me off. When I travel a long distance to see him (I always go to him, he never comes to me), he spends the majority of the time playing video games or watching videos while I wait for him to finish (he never does). I try to show interest in his hobbies, but he always puts them before me.  Continue reading →

“I’ve been catfishing my friend”

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I was friends with three girls. Let’s call them Cayenne, Cinnamon, and Mint. Cinnamon and I suddenly stopped being friends, so I became friends with Mint, who Cinnamon had problems with. A few months into my friendship with Mint, she told me that she had been catfishing Cinnamon as revenge for bullying her. Cayenne was still friends with all three of us at the time, having to keep her and Mint’s friendship secret from Cinnamon.

Mint eventually got me to join in catfishing Cinnamon. After about six months of catfishing Cinnamon, Mint, Cayenne, and I broke up. Since this had happened, I’ve had the urge to tell Cinnamon who we really are, but I know it would cause an end to Mint and Cayenne’s friendship, and I don’t want it to look like I did it just for them to fight. What should I do?

“Should I have given him my details?”

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I am starting college in a new country in September and unfortunately my boyfriend of over two years will be staying in Ireland. While I was abroad looking for accommodation I bumped into another Irish student who had just finished his first year there.

He asked me to write down my details and he would give me advice on things he wish he knew before starting college. I told my boyfriend and he got extremely jealous. He is making me feel like I did something extremely wrong, yet everyone I have talked to say that he should be supportive and happy that i have made a new contact in this strange new country.

Am I wrong for giving this boy my details or is he wrong for being so jealous over an innocent act?

“I’m bored with my relationship”

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I’ve been dating this guy for almost 6 months now, but recently I’ve been getting bored with the relationship. Don’t get me wrong, he’s a great guy and an amazing boyfriend and we were even friends for a long time before we started to date. It’s just that recently I’ve been getting really annoyed over little things and the relationship isn’t exciting like it used to be.

Also, my ex is back from college and I’ve been fantasizing about him sexually.. a lot. I’ve been thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend, but I’m afraid of losing the only person who’s close to me and I can open up to. I generally keep my feelings to myself and not many people really know me. I’m ready to be free of the obligations of a relationship and explore other options, but I don’t want to lose my only real friend.

“Did I scare him off?”

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This guy and I have been school mates since elementary school till college. We never noticed each other until college started. Since we were paired up together in a group project, we became a bit closer. I felt that he has, maybe, some feelings for me because he really cared about me when I was sick in school and I noticed that he didn’t do the same for other girls. He would occasionally steal glances at me in classes. In addition, he would stare at me when I was laughing with my friends and he would then be curious and ask me what was I discussing about with my friends.

I feel like he was always inquisitive about my life which I didn’t see him doing to other girls. My classmates joked about us being together and he would always smile and look at me. During that period of time, I didn’t dare to confess to him because both of us were preparing for national exams and I didn’t want to get distracted. After the exam, he went for his national service. I finally made a decision to open up to him and tried to message him after months of pondering. Continue reading →