“I’m in love with my best friend”

I became friends with a boy and we weren’t super close, but I struggled with depression and he got me out of it and we became super close. We’ve never been more than friends and while we do love each other and say it pretty frequently, we’ve friend zoned each other.

I’m falling in love with him more everyday and I don’t want to tell him in case it ruins our friendship. What do I do?

“He dumped me when it made his friendship awkward”

This is a long post, but it’s a long story.  I recently moved back to my hometown after a few years. I also started talking to my ex boyfriend and after a lot of misunderstanding had reached a happy plateau of agreeing to hang out occasionally, and as he put it ‘get to know’ one another again. Parallel to this he’s also in love with a girl at work who doesn’t seem to reciprocate his feelings, and has heavily put him into the friend zone. So I assumed it was safe to build a friendship.

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“How do I tell him without him getting the wrong idea?”

I’m a high school student and I’m best friends with this guy who is two years younger than me. We met and started talking in November last year. We chatted everyday and bonded really well. We liked the same things and made jokes together.

Around December he told me that he liked me. At that time I was really scared of telling him that I liked him back so I friend zoned him. He said it was okay and that we would still be friends. My parents told me that I’m only allowed to have a relationship when I’m in college. I totally agree with them but what if I just wanted to let him know that I like him but not have a relationship or anything? How do I tell him without him getting the wrong idea?

“His twin brother wants to date me”

So about 5 or 6 years ago I was occasionally talking to this guy. Nothing serious. We texted sometimes, maybe had 2 phone conversations but never dated or anything. The first time we hung out we ended up having sex. Next day went on as if nothing happened. We only had sex one more time after that before we just eventually drifted to other interests I guess you can say.

Fast forward 4 years later, me and my girls would chill out with these guys that my friends grew up with. Guys were really chill… liked to genuinely have fun and yada yada. One of the guys always flirted with me and eventually made it clear that he liked me so I asked a few people about him to see what vibes I would get. One source revealed he had a twin brother.

OMG! Once that was said to me it made sense why he looked so familiar of another person – the guy I slept with years ago.  Ever since learning this, I basically friend zoned him. I never once revealed that I slept with his brother because frankly it wasn’t something I was too excited about and I didn’t want it to change how they viewed me. His brother in question moved down south and started his life there with a whole new family. Been there for a while and doesn’t seem to come back to where we live anytime soon. So me and the current brother have actually been on a date because he always asked but I felt bad after. IDK, like I  feel like it’s inappropriate and also pretty gross in a way but then again this happened yearssss ago and the family has a new life somewhere else. What should I do?

“How do I get out of the friend zone?”

I’m crazy over this girl who I’ve know for years. She has me friend-zoned. I’ve told her before about my feelings and it didn’t work. So we’re still really close and she texts/snapchats me all the time and is constantly looking for my attention, but keeps me friend-zoned. I think maybe she is waiting for me to mature a little because, I can admit, she’s a lot more mature than me. I’m more into partying and drinking, and she’s more into studying and going to bed at nine o’clock.

We’re both 21, and I really think it could work between us. I don’t let the fact that I have feelings for her stop me from living my life. I’m open to meeting other girls, but, if she ever called me I’d leave any date at the drop of a dime. I’ve tried forgetting her and ignoring her, but I’ve never lasted more than a few days.

I wanna give up so badly but at the same time I’m clinging on to the little hope I have. One night we were both talking about how lonely we were and she told me that she wished she had more options and wouldn’t have to settle and that really hurt. But you can’t force anyone to like you and can’t get mad if they don’t. My analysis of the whole thing is she keeps me wanting her by giving me just enough of her attention but keeps me friend-zoned.

“I want to be friends, but he’s lost interest in me”

Hi, I need your advice on how to move on. Well, in March at work, a guy approached me and we became friends. He was very sweet to me and we often texted each other. I realised the chemistry between us was not bad. I saw him as a friend, nonetheless. He started becoming clingy and I felt quite uncomfortable because at that point, we barely knew each other.

Slowly, as days go by, he kept coming to my seat and was very touchy and came too close to me (I cringed). I felt pressured and wanted him to give me the space I needed. Sometimes we talked about our past experiences and I counseled him a little. I remember telling him why I was very wary of guys (I have yet to heal fully from the pain someone caused me).

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“I’m okay just being her friend, but she’s ignoring me now”

Recently (about two months ago), I started talking to this girl (I am a guy). We had more than a few nice conversations, and everything was going smoothly. She has a boyfriend, which I have no issue with. He’s a nice enough person, and I don’t dislike him at all.

I have developed some feelings for her, but I understand that nothing is going to happen (she’s already in a relationship). As such, I am totally okay with just being her friend.

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Mixed Signals

Hello, so I met this girl in this group I joined a few weeks ago. When she saw me, she seemed to be somewhat interested in me, at least compared to the other girls there. After seeing her there a few times, we finally had a chance to talk personally, and I asked her to dinner. She gave me her number, telling me to call her. So I called a few days later, to try setting a time for the weekend. She had several previous commitments (which she mentioned before I asked her out in the first place). Through our messages, I believe I came off as a bit too eager. She eventually said she was just willing to hang out as friends. I said I would be willing to do that, though I still have feelings for her. Since then, we haven’t had any interaction, but she hasn’t like removed me on social media. Any suggestions for going forward? Is there any chance I could make something work? When I see her at the group, anything I should particularly say (or not say)? Any advice would help. Thanks.