“I found out she cheated on me 4 years later!”

My question is this, I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years. I just recently found out that back when we first started talking and about to start dating, she had to take a trip to go get a divorce that was already in the works, finalized.

When she went to CA from FL to do that, she ended up fucking someone there she used to hang out with (before she left for CA we were having sex,) then she asks me to pick her up when she got back and at the time I didn’t know she did this till now (4 years later.) So now in my head I just realized that we had sex, she left, had sex with someone, then came back and had sex with me. Should I be allowed to be mad? In legalities, we weren’t officially dating from her words.

“He’s always on my mind but I don’t want to be heartbroken”

This is going to start off cheesy but please keep reading cuz I don’t know what to do… So I’ve never had a boyfriend before but I have been asked out many times. Here’s the thing though, I always decline. Even if it is someone I like. I think it might be because there are only two options for how a relationship will end up, it will either end in heartbreak or you will grow up and eventually get married and have kids together.

]But usually, at my age (14) the relationship will end with the first option, heartbreak. I’m scared that if I end up in a relationship with someone I really like, that it will not last and that I will have my heart broken. Heartbreak is probably one of my greatest fears.

Now, I have this crush on a boy who has been one of my best friends since we were 9. And I’m pretty sure he likes me too but he moved two years ago and lives about an hour away from where I am. I really like him and he’s always on my mind but I feel like if we end up together it won’t last because we live so far apart. And now I’m scared again because I don’t want to feel the pain that so many people have felt. I don’t want to be heartbroken. Can someone please help me or give me some kind of advice on what to do with this situation?

“Do I pursue a relationship with her?”

I met this one girl a few years ago and fell in love with her almost immediately. She was always outgoing and kind, and outrageously good looking. But more importantly, I saw an element in her personality that no one else that I know, has. And I loved it. I felt that pursuing a relationship with her would have been remiss, however, given that we share different religious beliefs.

I also assumed that I would find someone who was more attractive physically and in personality, and share my beliefs. But I still have yet to meet anyone other than her that I find attractive, and the more I try to stop thinking about it, the more lonely and frustrated I feel. I thought that I would just have a crush on her for a few weeks, and forget about her, but thinking about not having her has become a living nightmare. I can’t stop thinking about her. This has been going on for three years, and is quickly becoming an obsession. Any advice would be deeply appreciated.

“I like a younger woman”

I’m a 32 year old single male and am interested in a girl. We hang out every now and again, however she’s only 25. I worry about age difference as I’m getting older – I know there’s the “half+7” rule and stuff like that, but what is the real socially acceptable age difference? 7 years isn’t a HUGE gap, but I don’t want to come off as weird or creepy.

“Shall I just ask her out?”

I’m a senior in high school and I really like this sophomore girl. I met her last year. We had one class together, and I was the only older guy in the class. I only had one friend in the class so I wasn’t too social, and she started talking to me around the last few months of the year. I saw her in free sometimes, and she would always say hi, compliment my shirt, flirt a little. I liked another girl, a friend of hers, at that point, so I didn’t exactly realize she might be into me. We’re both pretty popular in our grades and both pretty good looking.

Now I asked the other girl out a couple months before school ended and she rejected me. We hadn’t even really talked before, so not a smart move on my part, and I’m over it. Don’t know if the girl I like now knows about that, but she seemed to show signs both before and after that all happened. She said we were practically dating (jokingly) once, stole my phone and took pics on it, insisted on taking pictures with me, even said she would have went to prom with me.

She was sending me these signs, but I am clueless when it comes to girls, so I didn’t realize until  summer started. I didn’t see her over the summer. Our only interaction was liking each other’s Insta photos and stuff.

Now, a week or so into school and she continues to show she might like me. I no longer have a class with her, so I only see her after school. She always starts the conversation, walks up to me, says hi. She has never been very shy and doesn’t hesitate to talk to me in front of her (or my) friends, She has wished me good luck in sports games multiple times and asked how my day was going, how was my summer, etc. Now that I really like her, too, I have been trying to show her that by doing some of the same. We can never talk for too long, but we say hi (she usually says hi first), talk a little, ask simple questions and stuff. Lately I’ve seen her flip her hair around or glance my way as I’m walking her way.

I’m only afraid that she thinks I still like someone else or I’m reading the signs wrong. I really do think she likes me, but I’m not quite sure how to let her know I feel the same way. We have a mutual friend, a girl in my grade, who I think may be a help to find out if she likes me back. So should I have her investigate? And of course I can always just go and ask her. Either way, how should I go about showing her that l like her back? Do you really think she is interested in me and would say yes if I asked her out?

“Another girl is constantly in my thoughts”

It’s been 6 years, 3 of which was falling in love with my fiancee, since we dated. It didn’t end poorly, and she was my first love. I can’t learn how to not think about her. She constantly appears in dreams and randomly pops up in mind when/ if I see red hair. I love my fiancee, she’s my better half and couldn’t be a better person or future mother.

It doesn’t change my random thoughts though and they’re starting to be painful. I should’ve told my fiancee about these thoughts long ago but now it’ll destroy her. I’m really not sure what’s going on in my head about it all. I want so bad to commit to my future but I literally cannot stop thoughts of a relationship from high school over 6 years ago. Do I just carry this forever?

“I got drunk and got too close to my co-worker”

I was dating a co-worker for a week. I went to a party, drank way more than I ever do, and somehow ended up at his house. I met up with him after, thinking maybe we can finally kiss… and we did…BUT it went further. I know we didn’t have sex, I know I kept my clothes on, but I’ve got memories of things I would have never soberly said yes to at this point in our dating.

I tried to mentally regain myself, act like it was okay, kiss him, relax, but (I know I shouldn’t have) I drunkenly drove home. I was sick to my stomach and needed out of there. To make matters worse, I have a history of being sexually abused as a child and it seems as though this night has triggered a lot of things I thought I had dealt with.
Avoidance isn’t going to work, any other advice? Please help!

“He hasn’t said I love you”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and two months. He is incredible! He is my best friend and we get along very well. I have met his family multiple times and they seem to really like me. He has met mine and they really like him. We discuss buying a home together and he is currently looking for a job to relocate to live in my city (we currently live 2 hours away from each other). The only issue is that he hasn’t said “I love you”.

I know it sounds silly but I truly believe the guy should say it first. I waited until after we hit our year anniversary before I brought it up. He said he very much sees a future with me and hopes his actions speak for his feelings but wasn’t ready to say it as he had been burned in the past. We both agreed we hoped for a better moment than that so it would be happening in the near future. So I waited… Continue reading

“He dumped me when it made his friendship awkward”

This is a long post, but it’s a long story.  I recently moved back to my hometown after a few years. I also started talking to my ex boyfriend and after a lot of misunderstanding had reached a happy plateau of agreeing to hang out occasionally, and as he put it ‘get to know’ one another again. Parallel to this he’s also in love with a girl at work who doesn’t seem to reciprocate his feelings, and has heavily put him into the friend zone. So I assumed it was safe to build a friendship.

Enter my messy life. Continue reading

“I’m stuck between two guys”

I am stuck between two people, one who I know a bit about, he’s a few years older than me but he is very sweet and has an amazing personality.

The other guy is someone who I’ve been friends with for several months and we are close as ever. He is sweet and I know he’d treat me right (he’s seen how I’ve been treated in the past) but I’m nervous I’ll ruin my friendship with him. Both like me except my friend told the first guy I like him. And the second guy knows I used to like him. I’m not sure what to do because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and I’m scared someone will get hurt. Help!