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“I like this guy, but dating is against my religion”

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So, in my religion, dating is strictly prohibited. I graduated high school this past June, and I met this boy in eighth grade. He is such a sweetheart and we both have dreams of playing professional soccer, and I know he likes me a lot, I do, too. He’s gonna be a senior this year while I start college, but I skipped a grade, so he’s older than me by two days. I am commuting, and he is now homeschooled so he can focus on soccer, so it could work out.

He’s in Germany right now training with a junior pro team and he says he thinks he’ll move back after school. I told him I want to move to a bigger soccer country when I graduate, and he said he’ll take me with him.

What I am really wondering is if I should go for it, and lose everything I’ve learned in my religion, or should we stay friends? I like really like him and I’ve never had a crush before, but if we date that would mean sneaking around my parents. Ugh! Please help!

“My casual relationship is getting too serious for me”

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I have been casually dating a guy for six months. About two months into our relationship, I slept with another guy, then shortly afterwards broke off our relationship to return to an ex. I very quickly realised that this was a mistake, and returned to the first guy. We had a proper conversation which appeared to resolve the issue. I then moved country, and we continued to Skype almost daily. Our conversation and interaction remained intimate. Although I was aware that from time-to-time he would go to a club and kiss another girl, this appeared to drop off, as it did for me, and I was fairly clear and upfront about the fact that I was not seeing anyone else. He told me this was the case also.

I visited him again, and then he visited me, and, having discussed it a few times, we decided to commit to each other, with one of us moving country to be with the other. However, he also told me that during the time I had been away, he had slept with someone else once, while drunk, and although he felt guilty, he had not seen it as a big deal because there had been no clearly delineated boundaries or ‘end goal’ for our relationship.

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“I really like him, but don’t see a future with him”

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I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now, and up until April, everything was great. He made me feel so happy and relaxed — he’s a super great guy! But, in April, he left to go back home a few states away, and stayed there for about 2 1/2 months.

We texted sometimes, but never had full conversations. I only missed him occasionally. When he initially told me he’d be gone for so long, I was a wreck, but when the time came, I was totally fine. Now that he’s back, he’s living with me and my friends until he finds a new place with his friends.

Things haven’t really been the same. I can’t stop questioning if I want to keep dating him or not. I do like him a lot for sure, he’s always respected my boundaries and opinions, and even though I’m asexual (and he’s got a high sex drive) he’s never forced me into feeling like I need to do things with him. When he does make little advances, I don’t feel uncomfortable, but I don’t exactly want to do it nor do I find it necessary in a relationship.

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“He seems like a great guy, but I can’t get over my trust issues”

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I have a rather complicated story, but I really need some advice, so please bear with me! I met a guy about three weeks ago on a dating app, and on the first date, he established that he was looking for a serious relationship, and not just a hookup. Since then, we’ve been seeing each other and speaking quite a lot over the phone (which is very unusual for me).

We share a lot of common interests, and so far he has been a very nice guy. A few days ago, he asked me if I wanted to go exclusive with him, and in the spur of the moment I said yes. Now I’m beginning to wonder if it was the right thing to do. I know it is unfair for me to judge him based on my past relationships (I was cheated on by my now ex-fiancé, and I was abused for many years by a male relative in my childhood).

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