“I’ve got no idea what is going on with my work colleagues”

Since a year now, this guy who is a manager, complained that a girl, we’ll call her girl A, does not like him. Girl A treats him indifferently. At the same time the guy was, and has been, becoming closer to someone we’ll call girl B; who has always been in love with him. This guy and girl B having a relationship now. It seems like they are hiding some of it.

Girl B thinks girl A likes the guy, and flaunts her closeness with the guy. But when girl A first met him, she had already mentioned that he is unattractive to her, despite everyone swooning over him. Girl B kept telling girl A about how she feels about getting him. Girl A was and has been indifferent to the situation. But Girl B acted threatened that the guy will like Girl A. Especially because he kept talking to everyone about girl A not liking him, even though he helps her. Continue reading

“My bosses sister touches me inappropriately”

I need advice.Sorry for the long post, I would really appreciate it if you read it. I don’t know how to get out of this situation? I’m writing this post because basically I’m lost. I don’t know what to do?

I invited my boss’s sister to join my all female group with a specific focus. My boss is always complaining that her sister is socially awkward, and lost in life, so I decided to invite her to join my group. I have worked there for the past two years but my boss doesn’t like me. She seems very uninterested and unimpressed with me. I should also admit I’m scared of her. She basically ignores me in the office and our offices face each other.

Twice a week, after work, I facilitate this all female group with a specific focus. My boss’s sister started coming to the group two months ago. She is a 53 years old, short like 5ft 2, skinny, masculine, freckled face, creepy green eyes, thin lips, red haired woman . I am a 39 year old 5ft10, heterosexual, curvy hourglass shaped, attractive brunette. Continue reading

“I need to get over my ex”

I broke up with my ex-boyfriend almost 2 years ago. We were dating for 2.5 years, mostly a long distance relationship. I found out that he went on a business trip with an female co-worker and they shared the same room. When I asked him why he didn’t tell me, he said there were 2 beds and they didn’t do anything.

Long story short, we broke up, he blocked my Facebook and still does. After a year or so, he emailed me to catch up, but I said nothing. Anyway, I’m dating my current boyfriend for almost a year now and we are very happily in love. However, whenever it came to him or I saw his Instagram post and his girlfriends, there is a feeling that I cannot describe. But I know it’s definitely not love, not friendship, nor happiness.

So I want to ask for advice how to get rid of that feeling, because I know it is unfair for my boyfriend, if my mind still thinks about my ex, even just for 1 sec. I don’t want to see my ex ever again if by any chance we meet, I want myself to walk past him like I don’t know who he is. Please give me some advice.

“I had sex in the park with a co-worker”

I have this guy friend.. we were co-workers for two and a half years. Everybody knew him as funny and flirty. He has been in a relationship with a store manager from a sister store (everyone knew that too) for years. Well I started actually working with his shifts (graveyard shifts), because I was having problems with my then-current bf so I moved out of town and closer to where I worked, except I was by myself living with roommates so therefore I had to pay more bills and find rides to work, because I have to give up my car to pay rent. Continue reading

“A co-worker is trying to ruin our relationship”

I am in the early stages of a relationship, and everything is going great. But, a former co-worker has decided that myself and her have “dated”, and messaged my new girl saying that we were still dating, so look out. It has dealt a pretty serious blow to our relationship, and we are looking to repair it. My current girlfriend worked with her in a networking group and may have slighted the girl that is trying to wedge into our relationship.

What would be the best way to handle this? We have thought of inviting this person out to call them to task, or to message her back, but I’m thinking this is just giving our relationship power, to her. On the flip side, we thought about just ignoring it and not giving it any energy. Thoughts?

“I gave a co-worker a blow job”

I work with a guy 12 years my junior, ¬†who I never really had any naughty notions about until recently. He started hitting on me and suggesting that I go down on him. Seeing as I hadn’t seen any action in a very long time, I went with it. It was exciting to have a younger man take an interest in me, so I gave him oral sex twice.

After the first time, he told me he doesn’t date or sleep with co-workers. Then after the second time, he started ignoring me and I found out he actually had a date two days after the encounter. I got pretty angry, but never said anything to him. Now things are awkward and we don’t speak except for shop talk. Part of me is still upset, part of me still wants him, and part of me just wants things to go back to normal. I also kind of want to know if I gave a bad blow job or he’s just so into this new girl he can’t talk to me. What do I do?

“I got drunk and got too close to my co-worker”

I was dating a co-worker for a week. I went to a party, drank way more than I ever do, and somehow ended up at his house. I met up with him after, thinking maybe we can finally kiss… and we did…BUT it went further. I know we didn’t have sex, I know I kept my clothes on, but I’ve got memories of things I would have never soberly said yes to at this point in our dating.

I tried to mentally regain myself, act like it was okay, kiss him, relax, but (I know I shouldn’t have) I drunkenly drove home. I was sick to my stomach and needed out of there. To make matters worse, I have a history of being sexually abused as a child and it seems as though this night has triggered a lot of things I thought I had dealt with.
Avoidance isn’t going to work, any other advice? Please help!

“I’m sleeping with my co-worker”

I’ve been dating a guy from work for the last 3 months. We’ve worked together for a year, but things finally started recently. We go out when our busy schedules permit it, and we always have a good time. We started sleeping together. He compliments me, pleases me sexually (takes his time on me in the bedroom), and motivates me in so many other areas of life. He’s supportive and gives great advice.

Our communication has waned in the last few weeks but we still see each other and are intimate. We have only had sex about 5 or 6 times. I’m a very passive person, but I want to make sure our situation is not based on the physical. How can I approach the situation? Any tips on how to have this conversation? I do want to pursue a relationship with him but I want to protect myself from getting hurt.

“I get giddy for my husband’s co-worker after our foursome sex party”

I’ve been married for almost 3 years now. In the 5 years we have been together, I’ve NEVER once had eyes for anyone else, I’ve just been madly in love and loyal to him.

Until I met his co-worker 3 weeks ago. My husband invited him and his girlfriend over to play pool and have some drinks, and we were all having such a good time getting to know each other. A couple drinks turned into several, then we all found ourselves in a very, very odd predicament….. Continue reading