“I don’t know how to move forward”

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My boyfriend of 4 years is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. He’s wonderful. I love him in one thousand different ways.

He’s been engaged before. Last year we went to get rings sized, but both agreed we could wait several years. The other day he said he doesn’t believe in marriage, and we will never get married. It was during a discussion about a friend of ours getting married.

I fully plan on being married someday. Do I just end things now instead of wasting more time in a relationship that doesn’t have the future I want? I don’t know how to move forward.

“When will I meet my boyfriend’s family?”

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So I’ve been officially dating my boyfriend for almost a year. I’ve known him much longer, but due to complications I’ve never met his family. Nor has he met mine despite me offering. When is the appropriate time for this? I’m at a point where I’d rather just get it over and done with. I’ve hinted at getting it over with, because it is something that’s giving me quite some anxiety, but then it’s always just “it’ll come.” At this point I’m even starting to doubt whether they are aware of our relationship or not. What am I to do?

“I caught my friend having virtual sex online”

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Recently I had introduced my friend to a social game online. It was supposed to be something fun that we could do together and maybe goof around with. However, things have taken an unexpected turn. I caught my friend having virtual sex with multiple people online. I’m not sure if they know that I know what they’re doing, but now they’re spending more time going in dating rooms, and having virtual sex with people.

Again, I wasn’t expecting this. I’m just worried about my friend, as I don’t think this behavior is healthy… maybe I’m just a judgmental prick. Also, if it helps, we’re 18 years old…

“My boyfriend ‘half’ cheated on me”

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My boyfriend “half” cheated on me, meaning I caught him flirting, texting, and trying to meet up with this girl. Our relationship was awesome at the time, even he admits it, so I have no clue why he’d act like that. She sent him “racey” pictures, so it’s not like they were meeting up to discuss world views.

Years later, I notice they’re still friends on Facebook!? He probably gets on Facebook once every 3 months, so it’s unlikely they’re actively chatting, but when your girlfriend’s upset about you attempting to cheat, wouldn’t that be a smart step to take, unfriend her? This is a deal breaker for me, but I’m unsure if I’m out of line, since he’s not an avid Facebook user.
Thanks!

“My girlfriend lied about her ex”

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So my girlfriend lied about her ex. When we were at our talking stages see claimed that she didn’t talk to anyone the way she talked to me. But I recently found out she was telling her ex that I was nothing to her, and she would even have me under the impression that she was asleep while she was talking to other guys.

We are now together but I am finding all of this out now. I always suspected her ex but she told me a lie, and now I found out the truth and it wasn’t through her. I really like her but know I feel like I cannot trust her like I used to. What should I do?

“Confused which guy I love”

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Oh boy, do I need your help. I split with an amazing guy 6 years ago. We connected so well and I trusted him endlessly, but he always felt a bit far away and had a gaming addiction (which he’s since resolved). I had an internship opportunity in Africa and had to decide whether to keep it short and come back to him, or end our relationship and be open to jobs there. So I laid out 2 things I needed from him – stop gaming so much and be a bit more sexually adventurous – but he said he couldn’t do those things. So I ended it.

Forward 6 years. Work, and the decision I want a family, landed me on the other side of North America from my ex. I hadn’t met anyone and kept thinking about him. I wrote him a long letter, and we talked so openly about what happened. I learned that during that time he was failing school, and actually dropped out, adding 2 years to his education when we split. He couldn’t give me what I needed, because he was losing himself. He would love to explore us, but right then he was seeing an old ex who was going through a lot (alcoholism), and while he doubted it’d last, he had to let it take its course. Continue reading →

“I have feelings for my best friend”

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Hi, I have a problem and I was wondering if I could get peoples’ honest opinions about it, because honestly, I am utterly horrible with relationships and feelings, and I figured there are likely people out there with more experience and relationship smarts than me. I honestly feel kind of stupid for going somewhere for advice because I’ve always been the kind of person to keep my problems to myself, but this has been going on for about a year and I guess I’m just tired of not knowing what to do.

So, anyway, here goes. My best friend and I go way back – we’ve known each other since before we went into elementary school. But, in this last year or so, I’ve been starting to finally realize that I’ve been starting to like her as more than friends. Continue reading →

“I’m having sex even though I’m saying ‘no'”

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In high school, I was one of those people who just wanted to be accepted. I lost my virginity when I was 14 to a boy who I thought I was in love with. (Cliche right?) Anyway, that started my downward spiral and I ended up having sex with several different people, just because it was easier to do it than to say no.

My reason behind that, is because on different occasions with two different people regardless if I said no, they continued to do sexual things to me and I would just let it happen because I assumed they would continue even if I fought it. Well, my boyfriend of three years knows all of this, and now sometimes he does this to me too. I will tell him to stop and he will continue even if I try to fight it. I feel like all of the progress I have made over the last few years is slowly withering away, and I do not want to be that person again. I am just scared that this is how it is going to be for the rest of my life….

“Do I leave him because I’m a rebound?”

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I met my boyfriend 4 months ago and we have been dating exclusively since that time. We spend nearly every night together and overall get along well. 2 months into our relationship I figured out that he had broken up with his girlfriend of nearly 3 years about 2 weeks before we met. She was terrible to him, cheated on him constantly and he eventually had enough. Essentially, I realized I was a rebound.

He tells me he cares about me very much, considers our relationship to be serious, but is “hesitant in his feelings for me.” He said it is frustrating because I am the best woman he has ever been with. Continue reading →

“I love him but his family hates me”

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I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years, and we have a 6 month old son together. But lately it feels like I have to constantly remind myself why I love him. His family hates me, and makes me miserable almost every day of my life, and it’s been this way for the last three years.

Every time his mom or sister calls, I get a pit in my stomach wondering what they are going to say, and my anxiety goes through the roof when we go to visit his grandparents. I just don’t think a relationship should be this way. I have tried talking to him about it again and again but nothing changes and we just end up fighting. Every day I wonder what my life would have been like if I chose someone else, and I just don’t know what to do anymore. I love him, I do but I’m starting to wonder if it’s even worth it at this point?