“Is my wife in a relationship with my son?”

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I’m a 50 year old male and I’ve been married to my current wife for about 5 years. We have a good marriage. I also have a son and daughter from a previous marriage. My son is 26 and recently came to live with my wife and me. I work during the day and my wife stays home with our children, ages 12 and 10.

I’ve noticed that my son and my wife spend a lot of time together. Whenever I come in from work, they are together, laughing or in deep conversation. It’s usually when I come in, they tend to get quiet or change the subject. It wasn’t until my 12 year old told me that she had seen them hugging that I really became worried. I realize it was a mistake to bring him into my home and I want him gone. My wife thinks I’m overreacting but I feel like I no longer trust either of them. It has not just affected my relationship with my wife, but most definitely my relationship with my son. What should I do?

“Are his lies a deal-breaker?”

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He didn’t cheat, but his lies don’t add up.  I say lies because I know they are. He’ll try explain one thing but I’ll question him about it again and everything he says contradicts his previous story.

He argues that he forgets and his memory isn’t good, but there’s just this feeling I get. I do trust he wouldn’t cheat on me but I think he has previously texted other girls suggestively and when I question him about it, he brings up my past and guys I previously chatted to before we got together.

I don’t know if I’m overreacting or thinking too deep but is this a deal breaker? Should I end it?

“He forced anal on me”

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I’m sorry in advance if this is a little graphic. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year. We both agreed that anal sex was not something we were interested in. But about 2 weeks ago, he inserted his finger into my anus during sex. I told him it hurt, and he said that he wanted to do anal and we would have to start there.

The next night he asked if he could put his penis in it if he was gentle. I said no, but he did it anyway. I tried to get away, but he held me down, I was crying but he kept going harder. After it was done, he acted like everything was normal, so I assumed that he was oblivious to how much it hurt because we have kind of rough sex anyway.

Then the following night we got in an argument and I was lying on the bed. He grabbed my hair and put two fingers in violently. I was yelling for him to stop, but he just kept going harder. He did apologize afterward, because he did it because he was mad, and he knew it hurt. I’ve been seeing a lot that of that men being forceful when it comes to anal is fairly common. Please tell me what you think because I’m just confused.

“My sexual behavior disgusts me”

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I was intimate with a man in exchange for a favor. It’s been a few months, and ever since then I cannot stop thinking about how disgusted I am with him, and myself with making a bad decision that I had full control of.

The whole time with him that night in my head I did not want to comply. I never found him attractive and looking at him now is just the worst. That night I was making excuses to stop. And now I mentally feel screwed up.

“Should I try to date my gym coach?”

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I’m 24 years old and have a gym coach for the last year who is 43. During the past few months we have slept together 4 times but continue on as normal, as coach and client. We get along really well and have a lot in common but he drives me mad and is really set in his ways, but I am mad for him and it’s making me crazy.

We never speak about our ‘get togethers’ afterwards but they keep happening and I would love to know what it all means. I am recently out of a 4 and a half year relationship so I’m not looking for another one but I would like to know how he feels, or if he is even slightly interested in me in a more serious way. I am so afraid of rejection that I never tell him how I am feeling at all, and sometimes I feel as if he is being the same with me. I was thinking of asking him to see a comedian with me later this month that we both like. Super afraid of getting rejected but I want to spend more time with him outside of the physical stuff. What should I do???

“My wife wants to sleep with other people”

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My wife announced that she wants to sleep with other people. She claims that our sex life is bad, and she is not satisfied. We had incredible sex just the night before and she thoroughly enjoyed it. I know her, and I know when she is faking and she wasn’t.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t want her to cheat, but she is convinced she won’t be happy until she gets to sleep with someone else.

“We are both having affairs; can we be together?”

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I’m his Mistress and I’m married, but he’s finally divorced and starting a new job.

I know I shouldn’t expect anything different but we’ve been together for 3 years and he’s leaving to start a new job. On the one hand we’ll have more time together in the evenings because he’ll have his own place, but on the other hand he’ll be surrounded by new colleagues including women that will be interested in him since he’s attractive, successful and now technically single. Continue reading →

“Is my friend racist?”

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I have a friend who makes racist jokes towards me. I am half Asian/half white and one of my friends makes offensive Asian jokes and it can be quite hurtful. They don’t do it on purpose to upset me, but I’m pretty sick of it and wish they’d stop.

Should I speak to them about it or just cut them out? Are they a real friend if they say things like that to me?

“I love him but don’t see a future”

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I think loneliness has been accepting myself to get trapped in an unhappy relationship for years. I know I have the will power, but the fear of the unknown is really scary.. I have been in this relationship for three years. Wow.. I cant believe it’s only been three years because looking back, it feels like it’s been eternity. Him and I began as best friends and fell in love.

My boyfriend is a nice guy. He is loyal. He is smart. He is generous and also very easy going. These are qualities that I personally wished I possessed so I have always admired and appreciated the way his way of life brought me some zen.

However, as time went on, I realized that his easy-goingness really came from his lack of engagement to anything. He could not get anything done. Or he could not even start because he is “too afraid of failing”. He always pushes things to the last minute which always ends up stressing both of us out. I am not a planner. I am a Sagittarius for crying out loud. I like adventures and spontaneity, however, I saw myself gradually turning into a mom figure. Guiding him through very simple procedures of life, making sure to keep him motivated, making sure he follows through with his plans. It has become so exhausting, dragging him along to get things done.
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“Does my friend need professional help?”

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One of my best friends is super depressed and I don’t know how to help. He is pretty good at masking it around people, but I can tell. A few years back he started dating his old high school crush and even proposed and she said yes.

Well, shortly after she broke off the engagement, and for whatever reason he has it stuck in his head that she was the only girl in the world for him. Now almost 2 years later he is still really bad off. He got really blackout drunk on his birthday last year and let a lot of his bottled up emotions spill out and even talked about how he has considered suicide.

Since then he has not drank but he did take up 420 which in retrospect is alright since it is an anti-depressant. I have talked to him about it and expressed my concerns but he is very adamant about not wanting “professional” help and not wanting to be put on “chemicals” (medication). He is my friend and I love him but it hurts to see him in pain and not doing anything to seek help. I want to do more but according to professionals if someone is refusing help don’t push it because it can make it worse. So I just don’t know what to do.