“My crush turned into an obsession”

Leave a comment

I met this one girl a few years ago and fell in love with her almost immediately. She was always outgoing and kind, and outrageously good looking. But more importantly, I felt I saw an element in her personality that no one else that I know has. And I loved it.

I felt that pursuing a relationship with her would have been remiss, however, given that we share different religious beliefs. I also assumed that I would find someone who was more attractive physically and in personality, and share my beliefs. But I still have yet to meet anyone other than her that I find attractive, and the more I try to stop thinking about it, the more lonely and frustrated I feel.

I thought that I would just have a crush on her for a few weeks, and forget about her, but thinking about not having her has become a living nightmare. I can’t stop thinking about her. This has been going on for three years, and is quickly becoming an obsession. Any advice would be deeply appreciated.

“Did I miss an opportunity?”

1 Comment

I have been friends with this guy for about 4 years now…when we first met I was 17 and he was 20. Anyway, when we met four years ago, he really liked me, but at the time I was going through a heartache of another crush, unfortunately.

But with time, we became very close, and we continued to talk despite the long distance. He lived in TX and I in IL. However, I secretly began to develop feelings for him too…I never told him. Eventually, we both just agreed at the time to just be friends, because of the long distance. After that, we slowly lost contact. Continue reading →

“He admitted to cheating and I can’t get over it”

1 Comment

My boyfriend and I have just celebrated our one year anniversary together, and have undergone tremendous growth in the last year, resulting in plans for a life and future together. A few months ago, though, he admitted to cheating in the first couple of months of our relationship… with more than one girl.

I was obviously heartbroken, but decided that at the end of the day, his apology was sincere and I do still love him and want to pursue a future with him. The problem is, not only do I see the girls around campus, but he also works with them both. I feel like I’ve forgiven him, but every time I see one, or they come up in conversation with other friends, I get overcome by anger and pain. Not necessarily directed toward him, just with the whole situation. If I know I can trust him and I feel like I’ve forgiven him, how do I stop these girls and associated feelings from hurting me?

“Shall I ask him out?”

1 Comment

I like this guy and I think he likes me too, but a mutual friend told me that he said that he’s kinda interested in me but I live too far away.   I’m a year younger and I am interested in him. I want to make a move and ask him out, but I’m too scared. We’ve been talking for not a long time.

 

“I don’t trust him sexually or financially”

Leave a comment

(Disclaimer! This is a male/male same-sex relationship)

I’m engaged to someone I don’t trust sexually or financially. We will have been together two years at the end of October this year, and he proposed a few weeks ago. Another bit of information is he has a neurological disorder that can cause tremors every so often, and he can become highly sensitive to certain sensations like water, soap, a sudden cold breeze. This doesn’t appear to be all that often, I’d say once or twice a day he will experience these things. He also has a daughter that is 7 years old, the result of a boozy encounter with one of his friends. Continue reading →

“I’m lonely and I can’t make new friends”

2 Comments

I’m going start off with I’m not crazy psychotic. or anything like that. Now that that’s clear, after searching ‘ask for advice online’ I found this site, and well, I need some advice.

The thing is, I’m just lonely. I tried a ton of websites to meet/make new friends, I’ve tried MeetUp, long story short, there’s nothing in my area. I even thought of volunteering, to meet new people and do some good. After numerous applications filled out, I heard nothing. I don’t have any opportunities to meet new friends in my day to day life, or through my favorite hobbies.  Nor can I even create any, so I’m literally stuck, and have been now for quite a while.

I am not at all happy about it. I should mention that I have a certain mental disorder, that just doesn’t help the matter out one bit, long story, has something to do with how it makes me appear/seem to others and leave it at that.

“He’s been messaging other women on Craigslist”

2 Comments

My previous ex had a relationship with a girl,  the last 2 years of our relationship. So I’ve always been “on guard” with all relationships after that one.

I found a guy who experienced a similar issue with his ex wife (outside relationships discovered via text msg,) so I felt good going in. I recently discovered that he’s been messaging girls/couples on Craigslist when I’m not staying over at his place. I can go into why I know this, but just know it wasn’t due to over snooping on his devices.

I don’t know how to bring it up to him. I want to because since I figured it out, I’ve made every excuse I can think of for us not to have sex for fear of transmittal. What is hard too, is I love him. He’s an amazing partner, if I didn’t know this was happening behind the scenes. Help please? Is there a way back from this?

“How do I turn my crush into a relationship?”

2 Comments

I have a crush on my friend and I have no idea what to do. I’ve known my friend since we were in kindergarten. We haven’t always been super close, but he’s always there for me. Now, my friend and I attend different schools, but we stayed in contact.

Lately, I have been having personal problems and family issues and I have been suffering. I pray to God everyday and hope to get rid of anxiety and stress that fills me up everyday. One day, I felt like I was keeping in too many emotions and I started to tell my friend about my issues, some that I haven’t told anyone. I was scared to think he would find it weird that I shared this information with him, but he was surprisingly sweet. He told me that he will always be there for me, and he will never say no to me when I need to vent or share something with him.

Now, after 2 months, I have fallen for him. I am struggling between telling him how I feel or just continue our relationship the way it is. What should I do?

“I married young and want a divorce”

1 Comment

For a few months I’ve been considering getting a divorce with my husband for multiple reasons; he’s horrible in bed, unromantic, won’t get a job, has no real life goals and doesn’t show affection.

But, the biggest reason is because my ex started talking to me as friends and I realized I still have feelings for him, but he was horrible for me.

I also feel like my freedom has been taken from me. I’m about to be 21 and my husband complains every time we go out and makes everything a living hell. I’m worried that divorcing him will be a mistake and I’ll regret it. I think I ran into a long term commitment too soon, because his whole personality changed as soon as we got married. I’m just stuck wondering if he will go back to being the same guy I fell for before, but I still have these conflicting feelings for my ex. I don’t know what to do!