“I think I want to be more than friends”

I started talking to this guy from my college like one and a half months ago, I barely knew him and never ever talked to him before, but it felt great texting and talking to him online. The very first day we kept talking for long and had even assigned ‘bye signs’ for each other on fb. He is an introvert and I was the only girl he talked to for so long.

The first month, since we were home, we only talked on social media. And then I met him and he was absolutely different than the person I used to text, he was definitely more closed, didn’t talk much. We met again, like 5 times now, and he is more okay with me now, is a little less weird. I like him a lot, he is my buddy, I like talking to him a lot. Now, I have reached a stage where I miss him if we have not talked for like 2-3 hours. I want to talk to him. Every morning I wake up thinking of him and message him first and he is the one I say goodnight before I sleep. And it has just been 40 days of talking. But I know for sure that he is not the guy I want to date.

Can anybody tell me what’s going on? Is it okay, to care for someone so much, want to talk to someone, expect and blush when they compliment you, want to go out with them but still want to be just friends?


“I like him but he’s creeping me out”

There is this guy who was an acquaintance of mine who somehow got my phone number 6 years ago. He texted me and I texted back because I didn’t see any harm in it. I found funny pictures to send or sometimes we would just chat about our day. I guess a friendship sort of developed from this, but from the beginning he’s been trying to push for a romantic relationship that I have never shown any interest in.

He sometimes texts me creepy comments or takes my pictures of of my social media and types text over them, about how bad he wants me and he sends them to me or posts then on my wall. Today he recorded himself saying my name and making weird noises, and sent it to me and it was super creepy and uncomfortable. I told him that but he said he was trying to be funny. It was not.

I’m really shy and I don’t like to hurt people’s feelings. And I feel like some of it is my fault because I continued to talk to him even though I was not interested.

Lately I ignore his texts for days at a time but end up responding because I feel bad because he’s been there when I needed to talk for the last 6 years! Honestly, he creeps me out so much but I don’t know how else I can tell him without hurting him.

Please help me.