My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years now. He dated a girl we’ll call her…..”L”…….about 2 years before me. Bf and L dated for only a year. I found out he was still friends with her on social media accounts, no big deal, I’m not THAT jealous.
Then one day I see her name pop up on his screen notifications, she snap chatted him. I get weirded out, ask if they’re still in touch (to my knowledge they weren’t). He says not really. So I snoop later on (bad I know) and find they’ve been snap chatting each other back and forth. He says they were just pics of his dog. My bf and L got this dog together when he was a puppy, but I’ve spent more time living with the dog than she has. Well, bf says L comes by about once a year and takes the dog for a day or two when she’s in town. He expects me to be fine with this saying she was his original “mom”.
I’m annoyed, say he’s more my dog than hers, and I’m not ok with this. He gets mad, I ask him to stop contact with her, it’s weird and inappropriate in my eyes. He says no without hesitation. Says she’s really nice and I’d like her if I met her and I just don’t understand that she’s not a threat. Well Mr. Hypocrite gets mad if a guy so much as likes a photo of mine. I keep my jealousy in check for everything besides exes. If they’re an ex, it’s for a reason, I do not see what the need for continued contact is. Am I being overly jealous? Am I crazy or is this shady?