“My husband and I are constantly arguing”

My husband and I of barely 2 years have been having several arguments lately. I know people say the first 2 years are hell but I don’t think I’ve ever felt this low in my life before. My husband is one of the most honest people I know, so when he told me that my weight was becoming a problem for health reasons, because my acid reflux was getting bad throughout the day and at night, I changed my lifestyle and eating habits and all was well.

Until things started to changed, more so about him. He’s been calling me crazy and stupid and hasn’t cared about my say in any matter we need to resolve. Lately I’ve just been feeling like I’m not important in my own home. Today we had an argument about a bunch of different things and I’ve struggled with stress eating in the past so while we were out I ate something that wasn’t part of my new lifestyle change (mind you I’ve been on this health kick for almost 6 months and have been doing so good).

Of course my husband gets upset and talks to me about it in the car by I refuse to speak with him when he yells at me cause that’s just how I am overall. I start to get out the car and he grabs me by the arm and I look at him and he lets go quickly. He calls me a stupid bitch and leaves me to bring out things up 3 flights of stairs on my own. Granted this isn’t the first time we’ve argued and made up, but this one seems like it’s more crucial and will take more than just I’m sorry. I know my story is long but any feedback would be nice.

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2 thoughts on ““My husband and I are constantly arguing”

  1. Anonymous says:

    You want to consider relationship counseling right now. Go alone if he won’t go with you. Your husband is mentally abusive.

  2. therapyinsdcom says:

    Head straight to counseling- I highly recommend a Gottman therapist, which is heavily based on healthy communication: https://www.gottman.com/

    If your partner isn’t open to attending, you can also read John Gottman’s classic, “The Seven Priniciples for Making Marriage Work”.

    Best of luck-

    Karen

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