“I keep going back and forth between two guys”


I have a serious problem with commitment. I get so overwhelmingly into a guy and then it all crashes because I realize I would rather have the other one. I started dating this one guy in high school, and we decided to break up before college. He was always nice to me, and we lost touch. Then I started liking this other guy in college and we were a thing for a full semester. But when I took him home to meet my friends, my ex was there!

Next thing I know I broke up with the college boy and am back with the boy from high school. I NEVER doubted things with the college boy before that moment and it was like I blinked and it was all over. Being back with my ex was awesome for a good month but now I have some SERIOUS regrets because the boy from college sees me way more and understands me on a deeper level. I don’t know what the hell I’m supposed to do, I already have broken both of their hearts before and I don’t want to cause any more pain. I feel like such a piece of shit and I’m so worried I would just do it again if I went back to the college boy. Any advice would be great!!

“I feel like the guy I’m with is using me”

We’ve been seeing each other since last November. So about 9 months now. I go out of my way to do things for him. We have sex all the time. I get him surprises all the time. And I’m committed to him.

Since day one he has said that he doesn’t want to commit, that he’s not ready, that he loves me and I’m a big part of his life, and that he’s not ready for a relationship, but that he is trying. Continue reading

“I married young and want a divorce”

For a few months I’ve been considering getting a divorce with my husband for multiple reasons; he’s horrible in bed, unromantic, won’t get a job, has no real life goals and doesn’t show affection.

But, the biggest reason is because my ex started talking to me as friends and I realized I still have feelings for him, but he was horrible for me.

I also feel like my freedom has been taken from me. I’m about to be 21 and my husband complains every time we go out and makes everything a living hell. I’m worried that divorcing him will be a mistake and I’ll regret it. I think I ran into a long term commitment too soon, because his whole personality changed as soon as we got married. I’m just stuck wondering if he will go back to being the same guy I fell for before, but I still have these conflicting feelings for my ex. I don’t know what to do!


“I want to be more than just friends”

I met my best guy friend, J, in February through match.com. We immediately clicked, had common interests, similar morals, and communicate well. We both are interested in each other, but he does not want to jeopardize our great relationship that we have as friends.

A lot of it has to do with his prior relationships and being hurt by them; and also them never speaking to him since. He doesn’t want that to happen with us. He also has episodes of clinical depression which contributes to this thinking of his. His last relationship ended a little over a year ago and lasted 8 years. My last relationship was over 3 years ago and I’ve dated a lot if anyone was wondering. I feel like he is what I’ve been looking for. I am 34 and he is 32, so we are not teenagers or in our early 20s either. I want to keep him in my life and will stay friends with him, but does anyone think there is a chance he will change his mind in the future?

“My ex and I are still in love”

My ex and I are still in love…five years after the breakup. We have both been in serious relationships since then but reach out to each other every few months to let the other know our feelings haven’t changed.

We now live in different states and have our own friends and careers, making getting back together very difficult. The unwillingness to let each other go is preventing us from completely committing to new relationships and causes insecurity in our new partners. What should we do?

“I’m not ready to say ‘I love you’ back to him”

So I met this guy a few weeks ago. We met at a bar and we were both a bit drunk. We slept together, sexually and non-sexually, and he made sure I gave him my number. He kept saying he really wanted a text back and for it to not be a one time thing. So we meet up a couple more times, and had sex the first two times we met up again. Since then, it’s mostly been cuddling and talking, with only one other time we’ve had sex, though he kisses and touches a lot. He’s introduced me to his friends, and recently to both his parents. He really wants to meet my parents, recently trying to make arrangements to meet my dad, and wants to meet my son. He’s talked about moving in together, and looking for a place together.

He recently sat down with me and talked about where our relationship heading. We both agreed we liked where we were at, because we both agreed we weren’t ready for anything else. But later, we talked about something that he had hidden from me and said that was why he wasn’t wanting to date seriously. But once he told me about it and I was okay with it, things really changed.

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