This week has been a shitty emotional roller coaster. Monday morning in class I was really happy because the guy I like sat by my computer even when I was working and we just talked all class and it was great. I was convinced that he felt the same way. Then he asked my best friend out that day and I was just devastated.
Initially I was in denial, because I was so sure that he liked me. I honestly thought that he was gonna ask my friend about me and saw me and then panicked, which is completely ridiculous. So I moped all the way through Tuesday and Wednesday, until Thursday, when a friend of mine told me that this guy was upset that he messed things up between us. This just confused me more because 1. I didn’t know he thought that there were “things” between us to begin with and 2. Why would him liking my friend ruin things between us?
Long story short, I still think about him all the time and I keep thinking of ridiculous scenarios where we could be together. I really need help trying to get over him while still being friends.
4 thoughts on ““A guy I like asked my best friend out””
(aside) Man I don’t miss being a teenager. Whoever says those are the best years of your life is lying or a super sad person who needs professional help.
Nothing you can do at the moment except move on with your life. He might ask you out in the future if they don’t work out, but not if you stay grumpy every time you see him. It’s ok to daydream, but find something to do to keep your mind off him if you can. Read your favorite novels, go for a walk/run, ect. Whatever it takes to stay busy. Plus side of the walk/run – you feel better afterwards and it’s a good time to clear your mind.
I can definitely relate to your situation. It definitely sucks and now that you can’t have him he sort of seems even more appealing. A) you could either try to talk to him and be cool and normal as friends or B) you could just try to move on and realize that if he didn’t go for you first and went for your friend instead, then maybe it wouldn’t of worked out in the first place and so you should try to find a new distraction (a.k.a. try flirting with other guys cause ethat sure makes you feel better)
Hey there. I understand what you are going through. It can be hard to try to be friends with someone who is dating your best friend, but you have got to try to move on. Try changing your seats. Try focusing your energy on things you like to do. It looks like it’s clear in your mind that you accept that he’s going out with your best friend. That’s a very good thing. All you have got to do now, is try not to think about him. I know that that’s almost impossible for you right now. But you have got to try consistently. Remember, in order to move on from him, consistence is key. Don’t try to force your mind to shut the thoughts about him, because that will only ‘bounce back’ and keep the thoughts present in your head. You have got to be patient with yourself. If you have any questions, you can contact me on my website and I would love to help you out. Stay strong and take care.
Almost the same thing happened to me. I really liked this guy and told my close friends how much I liked him. She convinced me to give her his Snapchat and she “promised” she wouldn’t text him. Well I found out the next day he asked her out and she said yes. I was mad at her, so I vented to some other friends about what happened, and they all actually bet how long they would last together. With money. They ended up staying together for about 2 and a half weeks. After that my so called “close friend” had made him promise he wouldn’t go out with any of her friends. That’s what threw me over the edge. But time has passed and I am so glad I never went out with him. Hopefully with time you’ll get over him, but if you don’t think you will, watch the signs he gives you. See if he’s starting to regret his decisions. But most importantly be yourself and stay positive.