My long-term relationship girlfriend wants me to fire a coworker. She is devastated, has nightmares, is taking medication… it’s more than jealousy. I have a good friendship with said coworker and nothing inappropriate has ever happened from either end, but we did become good friends.
We have hung out numerous times in the past, with my girlfriend, as a group. My coworker has a pretty cool group of friends. I connected with her and her friends more than anyone else in this city and I can understand how that could make my girl uncomfortable. When my girlfriend started sharing these feelings with me, I assured her many times that nothing is happening. It wasn’t enough. She sees details everywhere, pointing to an inevitable falling in love that the more she runs through what she thinks, the more she is convinced. She wants to believe me but it keeps getting worse. I stopped hanging out with the coworker, only work related things during work time and I have closed off my personal relationship with her. We are not in a kind of job where we see each other every day, we hire her to come help about 5 times a month, and she does certain things from home. In the last 2 months, I’ve only seen her about 4 times. I was hoping that distancing myself from the coworker would make things better, but things are getting worse.
My girlfriend wants me to fire her. I’ve talked to my business partner about this and he thinks we shouldn’t fire her, after all, nothing inappropriate has happened. She has worked with us for over 2 years with little pay and hasn’t done anything wrong. The coworker is very grateful for this opportunity and has been told that as the company grows, we will have more to compensate her for her work. I am concerned about my girlfriend’s health and I think she might do something very bad to herself if things don’t change. I could probably convince my business partner to let me fire her, although he will not agree it’s the right thing to do. I’m not sure if it’s the right thing to do but again, I fear for my girlfriend’s safety.
Any insight is very appreciated. I love my girlfriend and although we have gone through tough things like these, we also have a very deep meaningful bond, and we are never bored together. I don’t know what to do.