“I don’t think my Dad wants to be kept alive”

3 years ago my father had a serious accident where he fractured his skull and had lack of oxygen to the brain. Since the accident he has been in a permanent vegetative state and all doctors who have seen him have said there is no chance of recovery at all. So effectively he is a bed ridden corpse.

My mother is insistent on keeping him alive for as long as possible at great expense, but I know my father and he would never want to be kept alive in this way. She simply will not listen to any of the other family member’s wishes and thinks this is the right thing for him. I don’t. I am the only son and my 4 sisters and half brother all pander to her wishes as they know she has a wicked temper and perhaps don’t want to be scolded.

My mother is an alcoholic and a prescription drug addict who has numerous mental health issues (long before the accident) and I think it’s desperately wrong that someone so imbalanced has the only say as next of kin. I deeply resent her for keeping him alive like this knowing he would hate it. He had no clarity like in a will so she assumes this is the best thing. She won’t even discuss it. Advice please on this awful situation

2 thoughts on ““I don’t think my Dad wants to be kept alive”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Without clarity of will unless you can 100% prove that your mother is not of sound mind then there isn’t much you can do. I would consult a lawyer. That will cost you money just to talk to one but might have a loophole I don’t know about.

    Ps I am sorry for your loss. Internet hug

  2. JH says:

    It depends what country you live in. In the UK you can contact the office of the public guardian for advice if you think someones lasting power of attorney is not making a decision in the person’s best interest.

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