My husband and I have been together for 10 years ( 5 years married.) For the most part we are happy and we have 2 handsome boys. Sunday I was going through his phone and he had this weird flirtatious conversation with a male friend I didn’t know he was talking to. Long story short, it was actually a female ( he put it under a male name so I wouldn’t notice) and they work together.
Looking through phone records they don’t text each other everyday, but he has erased all their messages. He swears that all the conversations before have been innocent and they were only joking in the messages I saw, and that he doesn’t have feelings for this girl and I have nothing to worry about. He said the only reason he changed the name and erased the messages was because he didn’t want me to get mad. He says he’s really sorry and didn’t mean to hurt me and he swears there is nothing going on.
But everything I feel for him has been shattered. Just thinking about him makes me mad. I really just want to end this relationship! I honestly don’t know why I should stay besides our 2 boys. He didn’t do anything physical and he said they didn’t talk that much. He won’t admit to being attracted to her either. I honestly don’t know what he would have done, had I not found out. I just feel so lost because he really is my best friend and now I don’t have anyone I feel comfortable with asking for advice. What would you do if you were in my situation?