I met this girl online 4 years ago, when I was 16 and she was 14. I fell in love with her, we talked every day, but never saw each other. She lives in Idaho, I live in Oregon. Back then, we couldn’t see each other cause of the distance, and there was no way our parents would take us to see each other. It was definitely a romantic relationship, she was perfect personality wise, and so beautiful.
After 2 years, we had a falling out, I feel because we literally never saw each other. I didn’t have a job, could barely drive to the store, and tried keeping everything a secret from everybody. She’s legit and real, there’s 100% no chance of her being not who she says she is, we’ve Facetimed, Snapchatted thousands of times, talked/seen many friends + their social medias and everything- she’s real. I still love her, I still care about her, I still think about her not every day, but definitely a lot. We’ve talked on and off ever since, but I haven’t heard from her in at least a
year now.
Now, I’m currently in a relationship that’s lasted 3 years. She’s perfect, I couldn’t ask for anything better. I am very happy and very in love with her. She does everything right, and I honestly think she may be the one I marry.
Last night, the girl that lives in Washington sent me a Snapchat at 4am of her smoking a blunt, crying, and saying that she misses me and wants to see me.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel sick to my stomach because I literally cannot get this girl out of my head. But at the same time, I swear I am madly in love with my current girlfriend. What makes it worse is that the two are very similar, both in looks and personality, but obviously are unique in their own ways. But, I want to meet this girl, I have to. I feel like I literally will never get over her unless I meet her. I believe that I have made her out to be so perfect in my head, that seeing her will make me realize that she isn’t the most perfect human in the world. But at the same time, what if I meet her and everything gets worse?
Any thoughts on the situation?
Thank you
LemonVibe 
Wow. I feel so sorry for your current girlfriend. I mean, her boyfriend is lusting over a past woman who he has been obsessing over all this time when she’s been loving and wonderful to you.
But hey, why don’t you go after the girl on drugs who only gives a (insert expletive here) about you when inebriated on some substance at 4 a.m.? That’s quality with a KW there.
You know I dumped a guy in a simular situation. I was the girlfriend for a year. She was in another state with a kid still married, but he just thought she was so perfect. He’d built her up in his head.
Not a month later he was begging for my attention again, but I already had several dates lined up and wasn’t interested in being second best to a imaginary “perfect” woman. She was only using him in the long run and slightly on the cray, cray side.
Good luck, but don’t expect your lady to stick around even if she loves you. This will damage your relationship, possibly irrevocably. You don’t even know how many men are just waiting for you to mess up, so they can hop in your spot.
You need to meet the girl. Love is fucked up and weird. You can’t live a life of “what if’s” – you need certainty, and your current partner deserves that also. I can’t think of anything worse than being with a partner who loves me but might love someone else more and represses their feelings. Hopefully your current partner will understand.
Somethings you just need to get out of your system, in order to create the life you want to lead. This is one of those things.