I’ve been dating this guy for a year-and-a-half, and I’m scared of us running out of things to talk about, and of him falling out of love with me. Also, I’m scared of us not lasting, and honestly, our relationship gives me anxiety. It’s been like this since the beginning of our relationship.
I know there probably isn’t a clear-cut answer given only this description, but I was wondering if you could tell me what’s wrong with me. I mean everything about our relationship is great. We haven’t even argued yet. I don’t know why I have so much doubt in us, so I was wondering why do I feel like this?
6 thoughts on ““Why do I have so much anxiety about my relationship?”
If nothing is wrong in your relationship, then you should consider therapy to get help for your anxiety. Anxiety can ruin a good thing, so if you are truly happy with your boyfriend, it will help if you get it under control.
You either have issues with anxiety or you feel deep down even as happy as you are with him he is not the one. Are you able to be completely yourself when you are around him? Also you might just be so in love it scares you. Either way feel out your feelings and when you do talk to him about how anxious you feel sometimes. He might be able to clear some of your worries up.
I have a lot of trouble with anxiety, more so when I’m in a relationship. There may or may not be a true cause to the anxiety. The best thing to do, would be to bring it up to him. It will be hard to sit down and talk about it, you will most likely feel anxious, but you need to share this with him. The worst that can happen is him freak out and break up, which if he isn’t willing to help you, you shouldn’t feel bad because he isn’t mature enough to understand you’re hurting because of the anxiety. Best case scenario y’all sit down and have this talk and he helps you find the cause of the anxiety. Even if you don’t find a solution right then and there, he will at least know of the problem, you can’t hide things from people then feel upset when they don’t do anything about it.
I went through something similar when I was in a long distance relationship with a boy I met through high school. We got in a relationship after he moved. And after six months, I started getting so anxious, and even a bit paranoid. I would work myself up to tears, and worry when he wouldn’t text me back. It’s not the same totally.
But I really thought about it, and realized that I might not actually be “ready” for a relationship. I actually got into therapy for my anxiety, and it helped me so much. Though I did break it off with him, as we kept making plans to meet and didn’t.
Also, if you’re going through a tough time outside of your relationship, things like that can trigger anxiety. Fear of loosing something that’s maybe stable? Don’t let your anxiety make it unstable. If everything seems fine, more than likely it is.
I’ve had very similar experiences with not only my pervious relationship but also my current one as well. Its painful and scary. I think you should tell him and explain tp him how you are feeling. Understand there’s nothing wrong with you and never down yourself. Take a step back and think about your relationship. Think about the good things that been happening and also the bad. Weigh in everything because i learned sometimes it’s your gut feeling telling you something.