“I think my wife is sending nudes to other people”

In need of some advice. This is gonna be a bit long and it’s two points that somewhat connect.

First, I’m married (2 years) and I love my wife, right now we’re dealing with distance due to my work but things are great as we’ve dealt with it periodically throughout our relationship.

1. So when we first got into a relationship I had to move away for a while and 6 months into the relationship I had an emotional affair for maybe a month with an old ex. Things got pretty rough but we obviously got through it. She had threatened to have “revenge sex” but eventually explained she could never do it and didn’t want to. She did however in a fit of anger text me old sex videos she had of her and some exes to get back at me. Well one of the videos has been on my mind a lot lately and I kind of want to watch it to use as jerk off material. So long as I can’t see the guys face and she doesn’t say a name, I can imagine it’s me just like I do with porn. I have videos of me and her and they’re great but I just want something new. HOW DO I ASK TO HAVE HER SEND THIS?? Would it be too weird or wrong?? Continue reading

“Am I desperate for wanting to talk to him?”

So I really like this guy and I’m really close with his family. Our parents have been friends for over 20 years and I’ve pretty much grown up with this kid. He’s in 8th grade and I’m in 9th, so we don’t go to the same school. I barely get to see him. He comes to my chorus concerts because he wants to, so I get to see him then.

He’s really sweet and always texts me after a performance saying I did a good job. We just got each other’s Snapchat’s and he started a streak with me, but whenever I snap back, he leaves me on open. He doesn’t have a snapchat score, so I assume he just leaves everyone on open. But, I still want to talk to him but I don’t want to sound desperate. Please help!


“I’m worried if she sees me, she won’t like me”

Sorry for the ridiculously long speech thing. Okay here’s my idiotic question – I am in high school btw. I have Facebook, but it seems everybody has Snapchat.  I like this girl, but she only gets on there like every seven or eight days, but she gets on Snapchat like everyday.

I’m not ugly, but I’m not very appealing either, and I don’t want to be taking pictures of myself and putting them on the internet. I don’t take pictures of myself even on Facebook, I just put pictures that I take and videos I like on there. So my question is do I have to take pictures of myself on there or can I just see whatever the heck other people post?

I really like this girl – even though she is really nice – I think she is too beautiful for someone like me. She asked me if I had Snapchat so she could add me. But my situation is that I am a Mexican American and I live in the country, and I have been with the same people in a small school for the past 9 years, so to be at a bigger school it frightens me that people are going to make fun of my little overweightness and my race and my last name.

There is no way they can’t figure out what race I am. Some people love my last name and think it’s great, but others laugh. So do I have to take pictures of myself? Thank you if you can answer,  I know they have pages around Snapchat questions but no one actually answer me specifically.

“My boyfriend is lying about girls on Snapchat”

My boyfriend and I started dating back in July. Things have been great. We currently live together, however I feel like maybe we’ve been having issues lately? Before we started dating everyone told me he was a man whore. Even though he had been in a relationship with another girl for 8 years. He never cheated on her. He did things with other girls when they were broken up but never while they were together.

However I know he’s “talked” to other girls while in that relationship. I don’t mind him talking to other girls and having them on his snapchat as long as their intentions are good. However there’s this one girl who I can’t stand. They are 13 years apart. My boyfriend and I are 10 years apart. He was friends with her brother and that’s how he got to know her. It’s obvious she has a crush on him. Continue reading

“My fiance has dick pics on his phone”

My fiance keeps going on dating sites. He knows I don’t like Snapchat (because he’s used it to online cheat before).  But I found it downloaded onto his phone again. So I snooped. I’ve found dick pics, pictures of girls, and online dating sites.

We’ve been dating for 4 years and live together. We made a family with all our animals. Our whole lives are financially and physically mashed together. I have no idea what do. Any advice for my sorry ass of a life?

“How do I get out of the friend zone?”

I’m crazy over this girl who I’ve know for years. She has me friend-zoned. I’ve told her before about my feelings and it didn’t work. So we’re still really close and she texts/snapchats me all the time and is constantly looking for my attention, but keeps me friend-zoned. I think maybe she is waiting for me to mature a little because, I can admit, she’s a lot more mature than me. I’m more into partying and drinking, and she’s more into studying and going to bed at nine o’clock.

We’re both 21, and I really think it could work between us. I don’t let the fact that I have feelings for her stop me from living my life. I’m open to meeting other girls, but, if she ever called me I’d leave any date at the drop of a dime. I’ve tried forgetting her and ignoring her, but I’ve never lasted more than a few days.

I wanna give up so badly but at the same time I’m clinging on to the little hope I have. One night we were both talking about how lonely we were and she told me that she wished she had more options and wouldn’t have to settle and that really hurt. But you can’t force anyone to like you and can’t get mad if they don’t. My analysis of the whole thing is she keeps me wanting her by giving me just enough of her attention but keeps me friend-zoned.

“He asked for pictures of my underwear”

I’m a freshman in high school and a boy I like who’s a sophomore has been Snapchatting me for a couple of weeks now. I thought he might like me, too, but last night he asked for pictures of my underwear. I said no because I’m not like that. I’m scared that since I won’t send him pictures, he might not want to talk to me. What should I do? PLEASE HELP!

“I can’t tell if he likes me or not”

I’m in high school and there’s this guy … we have some things in common, and he seems nice enough. He often “slides into my dm’s” (like, two to three times a week). I’m pretty sure he likes me, but I’m not positive, and I don’t know how to talk to him at this point.

After school ended for the year, some of the people from our grade went on a trip. I chose not to go because I was saving for a car. Anyway, on the trip, one of my friends overheard him telling his friends how “smokin’ hot” I was (which is weird, as I’ve got no booty and no boobs to speak of). They also said that there were tons of rumors about how he had sent me nudes, even though he hadn’t even spoken to me throughout the duration of the trip. Since the end of the trip, he hasn’t talked to me very much. He slides into my dm’s occasionally, but I always have to end the conversation because I’m busy doing  other stuff.

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“The guy I’m into has stopped responding to my messages”

So, I’m 18 and I know that’s young to be looking for a committed relationship, but I’ve just wanted a guy to notice me. The ones who notice me are only interested in what they can get and I keep seeing my peers having boyfriends stay with them for years. This has been happening for so long that I don’t believe any guy could be interested in me ever.

I recently matched with guy on tinder (yes I know this is mainly a hook-up app) but he seemed really nice and totally interested in me (he just asked such mundane questions it felt so nice and normal). We talked for a week straight on tinder then we started snapchatting each other. He was a perfect gentleman (we also have mutual connections so I think this gave us a wider range of topics to talk about), but all of a sudden he just seemed to lose interest.

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“How do I show interest without looking desperate?”

I’m in high school, and school just ended. There was this boy in one of my classes who I had always thought was cute. Unfortunately I don’t think very highly of myself (I’m not skinny or very pretty), and so I thought he would never like me. Then we had to do an activity where we write a letter asking for advice, then we had to switch with someone and respond to one another’s questions. He and I ended up switching journals, and when I read his, it was about me! It said that he liked me and wanted to take me on a date.

I didn’t want to overreact in case he didn’t really mean it, and I didn’t want to sound desperate, so I just gave him some basic advice back. Then a few days later, there was an origami heart on my desk in homeroom, with no note. I suspect it was from him, but he never mentioned it in class. Then in class, I was talking to another person and saying how someone called me but didn’t leave a message. Sort of under his breath he said “it was me asking you on that date,” and I was so caught off guard that I didn’t really say anything.

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