I caught my husband direct messaging a girl coworker several times, but he deleted it all before I could read it. He insisted it was innocent and that he was helping her out, because she was new. I chose to believe him, but now I found out he bought her a big bottle of vodka and put it in her car at work for her birthday.
Now he says the same thing, that he was just trying to make her feel good, because she is going through a hard time. No matter what I say or do, he just keep insisting it was completely innocent. He also keeps getting mad that I don’t believe him and says I have insecurity issues. My mind feels so messed up and confused at this point.
Follow your gut. There is no good reason to give a new coworker a bottle of vodka. He’s gaslighting you when you call him on his bs.
If he’s deleting messages it’s not good. Why delete them if they’re innocent? Call him out on the bs.