I have feelings for my boyfriend’s best friend. Yes, it sounds like every cheesy movie ever, but it happened to me. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years. While we have had our good times, the majority has been miserable. I suffered from depression during the relationship and lost sight of who I was.
Now, I have gotten treatment for my depression and am feeling happier, but I am still unsure about the relationship. I always try to listen to my boyfriend’s wants and needs, while I feel that he does not return the favor. I have discussed this with him many times and only recently have seen results. Unfortunately, I believe he is only making these changes because he fears he will lose me.
A year ago we separated, and I became really close with his best friend. After this came to his attention, he made grand promises in order to get me back. I hate to throw away 7 years, and he seemed serious so I give him another chance. He has made changes but they are slow and this has happened before. However, he always returns to normal. Now, I’m concerned I may be missing out on something amazing with his best friend.
The thing is, I’m not sure the best friend would end a friendship to date me. He has even asked my boyfriend if he could ever date me if we broke up, and my boyfriend said no or the friendship would end. Should I tell the best friend my feelings and see what he says? I’m afraid to tell my boyfriend first because he may talk to his best friend before I can and I’ll be single with no prospects. While single is not bad, these guys have become very important to me after 7 years and I would hate to suddenly lose them both. What should I do?