I am VERY confused. About a month ago, I started college and on my first day I met this boy in one of my courses. Immediately I was attracted to him and after a couple weeks passed and conversations started to flow, I started to gradually develop feelings for him. However, I was scared to ever admit this to him for many reasons. Despite the fact we had only known each other for a short amount of time, he was also always mentioning that since he has started college he has had to “friend-zone” a bunch of girls, as the attention from them was becoming annoying and he was only looking for a friendship. I didn’t want to be added to this list.
After texting him for a while, we decided to meet up for the first time outside of college. He came round mine and we hung out for a few hours. Everything was going fine and we were both more comfortable around each other compared to how we were at college.
However, things soon got very confusing, as at the end of the night we kissed. Usually I don’t kiss someone who I am only friends with, but something felt right and honestly I couldn’t have been happier.
The problem was, the next day he seemed very distant. He would only flash me a quick smile from across the room and just continue to talk to his other friends. Now I know he is allowed to have other friends. However, since knowing him he as never been so distant. Since it was only a free lesson in the library, I decided to leave as it was making me feel extremely low. I met up with a couple of friends in the canteen and explained it to them. They suggested I go and talk to him about it, I agreed and made my way back up to the library.
As I was entering the library he was leaving, so we both bumped into each other. I told him that I had come back to see him, but he didn’t seem very interested. He kept joking around and saying “stop following me.” Despite it being a joke, I still took it quite personally and decided to return to my friends. Later that night, we texted each other and I explained how I have been feeling very alone and unimportant lately at college in general (he still doesn’t know I was actually referring to how he has made me feel). He replied with “Hey, you’re important with me.” This made me even more confused, as I really didn’t feel important to him at all.
If anyone has any idea what this all could mean, please let me know. I need some advice on how to handle this situation and to understand whether he really does like me or not? One minute he’s very flirtatious and the next he couldn’t care less. I understand many people have experienced things like this before, so maybe someone could shed some light on the situation and help me out?