I’ve been with my girlfriend for three years now, and things haven’t been so great in our sex life for at least two. I have a premature ejaculation problem, which sort of just started happening a year into our relationship. Our sex life has gone from a daily thing we both enjoyed, to an awkward thing we hardly ever do anymore.
We have talked a lot about this issue and we have come to the conclusion that the only thing that can help is more sex, but that’s just the problem now — she needs me to make it good for her again for her to even want sex with me. It seems like she is avoiding any opportunities in which I could initiate sex, and it’s not easy to get an opportunity as we live in a small house with flat mates who are always around.
I recently bought her a vibrator thinking I could use it with her so that she is satisfied after sex with me, but she is using it on her own now, and I haven’t had a real opportunity to try it with her.
Basically, I need some advice on how I can make her want sex with me again, even though it’s a disappointment for her most of the time. I need to get crafty, but I am stuck for ideas! Any help would be appreciated!