I met two great guys at the same time. It was a blind date with one. He brought me over to his place and I met his roommate/best friend the same day. I was instantly attracted to his best friend and I could sense that the feeling was mutual. At the time his best friend was in a relationship (at least that’s what I was told at the time), so I backed off. I eventually married my date and have been mostly happy for over 13 years. Throughout those years I’ve grown closer to his best friend.
One night we were talking and I learned that when we first met, he was NOT in a relationship. He did end up in a long-term relationship with a friend not long after our first meeting, but my husband obviously lied to keep me around and away from him. We both have admitted that we love each other, but we have never and WILL never do anything behind my husband’s back. We are both the type that would never betray a friend, no matter what so each time we’re around each other it feels a bit tense.
Today, instead of heading home after dropping my husband off for his work trip, I went over to the friend’s house. We did nothing, said nothing, and just talked about the usual things (how’s work? how’s life, etc, etc). It was a 10 minute hangout session, but it felt great to speak with him and not have things feel so weird.
I think I’ve decided to leave my husband, but I don’t intend to go straight to his friend. I wanna get my life in order first and then maybe start things slowly, if he agrees that is. Don’t get me wrong, my husband is a wonderful man. He’s been faithful throughout our entire relationship which is why I have done the same. But I just don’t really feel happy with him anymore. Is it wrong to feel this way? Is this a good idea?
I want to tell the friend my thoughts, but I don’t want to make things weirder. But he’s the only person that I’ve never lied to and usually when something’s on my mind, I quickly speak up to clear the haze of my thoughts. I just don’t know what I should do.