“How do I show interest without looking desperate?”

I’m in high school, and school just ended. There was this boy in one of my classes who I had always thought was cute. Unfortunately I don’t think very highly of myself (I’m not skinny or very pretty), and so I thought he would never like me. Then we had to do an activity where we write a letter asking for advice, then we had to switch with someone and respond to one another’s questions. He and I ended up switching journals, and when I read his, it was about me! It said that he liked me and wanted to take me on a date.

I didn’t want to overreact in case he didn’t really mean it, and I didn’t want to sound desperate, so I just gave him some basic advice back. Then a few days later, there was an origami heart on my desk in homeroom, with no note. I suspect it was from him, but he never mentioned it in class. Then in class, I was talking to another person and saying how someone called me but didn’t leave a message. Sort of under his breath he said “it was me asking you on that date,” and I was so caught off guard that I didn’t really say anything.

After that, he hadn’t tried to contact me outside of school, and I was afraid he thought I wasn’t interested. But I am! So I got his Snapchat from a friend and added him. A few hours later, he Snapchated me saying “hey,” and we talked for a little bit. But then he stopped answering and didn’t open it until the next morning.

Since then we haven’t Snapchated at all, and I’ve been waiting for a snap! I don’t know what to do, because now I really like him and want to talk to him. I figure now that he has my Snapchat, if he wants to talk to me he will, but I’m afraid he thinks I’m not interested. I don’t want to come off as desperate, but I want to get to know him more! Should I Snapchat him, or is that too desperate? What should I do? Do you think he still likes me?

2 thoughts on ““How do I show interest without looking desperate?”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Argh! You’re in pretzel brain twist….we’ve all done it. If there’s anything I’ve learned in the many years of agonizing over men is that they are literal- ask any sane guy and they will tell you that you don’t have to read too deeply to know how they feel about you- just observe their behaviors.

    If you’re a true introvert and are not interested in reaching out yourself- at school give him some eye contact with a smile and count to two. That should let him know you are nice and won’t bite. After that distract yourself with other things so you can untwist the brain.

    Most importantly- spend time around people who make you feel good, are positive about themselves and help you bring out your best self inside and out. Confidence is hot!

  2. Drew says:

    I will start with “I’m probably too old to give dating advice to high schoolers” but here goes:
    as anon said, us guys aren’t that tricky. He is TOTALLY interested in you. But he’s probably as unsure and nervous about the idea as you and he probably doesn’t think you’d be in to him. Find a way to give him an opportunity to ask you out. If he refuses to do it, then ask him out. and yes, untwist your brain and relax. You have years and years of guys trying to figure out if you’re interested in them before they are willing to take a risk and ask you out.

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