“My boyfriend’s obsessiveness makes me uncomfortable”

I’d never been in a relationship before, so this is my first one, and I’m not sure what to do. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over three months now, and I didn’t really like him, to be honest, when he asked me out. But I was like, “eh, I’ll go for it.”

I don’t know what’s been up, because I used to find a lot of the things he did cute or funny, and now I find myself getting irritated really fast. I feel really bad about it, but I don’t know. He likes to hug and kiss and hang out a lot more than I do. And sometimes, he hugs me, and I’ll go to leave the hug and he won’t let me. Or when I’m walking somewhere, he’ll grab/hug me and won’t let me go where I need to until I hug him back or something.

I think it’s supposed I be joking, but it just bugs me. He is a little obsessive sometimes, but I don’t think he means it wrongfully. I know he cares, but half the time, I like something or get excited about something or get upset about something, he kinda blows it off and just ask “why” all the time. It makes me feel like I’m not entitled to how I feel, because it comes across like what I am feeling or enjoying is dumb to him.

I don’t want to think I am starting to dislike him, but I don’t know. I don’t know if I’m changing or if I’m looking at this wrong or what. I don’t wanna lose my relationship, but right now, I’m not entirely happy with it. I just don’t wanna hurt him.

One thought on ““My boyfriend’s obsessiveness makes me uncomfortable”

  1. Dennis Hong says:

    Well, you yourself stated that you never liked him from the start. Maybe you were hoping that your attraction would grow over time, but it clearly hasn’t.

    I think it’s pretty clear this relationship isn’t going to go anywhere, and the longer you prolong this, the more likely you’ll be to hurt him. It sounds like he’s pretty into you (i.e., wanting to hug and kiss you all the time), so if you really don’t want to hurt him, end it now.

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