I need advice concerning my friend, and I have no clue what to do. It is affecting me mentally and my friend’s future and life.
She says her step-mom slaps her, and she hates and wishes she was in jail. She accuses her of stealing jewelry from her friends and throwing out gifts from them. She is scared that her step-mom will do something worse someday.
On top of this, my friend is depressed, cutting, and suicidal. I told her she should contact the police, but her stepmother would just lie and get her in trouble some way. Her dad is under investigation by the police for reasons I don’t know and doesn’t want to mess with that at all.
She has no one else to go live with, which would most likely mean the foster system. I really don’t feel like I can deal with this mentally, but I can’t abandon her. I care way too much. I have tried to get advice from many different sites like this already. I’ve even told my parents, but they say it’s probably not serious. How would they know this???
I am terrified she won’t be on the bus one day, and on the news or something, I’ll find out she ran away or committed suicide.
I have found out this is one of the reasons I distance my self from people and have so few friends. On top of all my smaller insecurities, I will break due to my worry over people I care about. I don’t know what to do or say to her anymore.
4 thoughts on ““My friend is suicidal, but no one else seems to care””
Do you and your friend go to the same school? Most schools should have some sort of support system in place for situations like this. If you privately reach out to a school counselor, they might be able to help you. Even if you don’t go to the same school, this is something that might be worth considering.
Since you’re both minors (I’m assuming), I get that it can be hard to get adults to hear you out sometimes. But this is exactly what school counselors are supposed to do, so if you haven’t reached out to them, I think that’s your best place to start.
Here are some resources that may help you (again, assuming that you’re both in your teens):
Best of luck with this.
I have attempted suicide and stopped someone close from committing suicide. The important thing to remember is, no matter what the world around you does, you are the most powerful thing in your universe. You have the power to help people and make a difference. It’s so true you need to love yourself before you can love anyone else. Each of us needs to look inside for our own meaning or purpose in life. I found I just wanted to help people. Little things, everyday. It felt so good, and I could feel myself loving who I was and what I was doing. This helped me look past my issues and focus on others when feeling helpless in my own world. The living situation is tough, and I agree you should bring it up to a school counselor. You are a strong positive force. Know that, and be confident you make a difference (in your life, and possibly others). Worries are only thoughts. Non material things we let stress us out. Don’t focus on those thoughts, focus on the positivity you bring by being there for her and helping her find the right counselor to better her living situation. You are the master of your universe, and you are positively charging it!
Here’s an unconventional advice: Don’t ever say “Don’t kill yourself”. It’s condescending and disrespectful. People own THEIR bodies, not you. Everyone has the right to die. It’s an absurd, sick world where people aren’t allowed to kill themselves.
Focus on taking care of the other problems. The foster service may be horrible, but your friend’s current situation is DEFINITELY horrible. This isn’t a case of Devil You Know. An abusive relationship is one of the worst places you can be.
What you and your friend need to do is find a way to film the violence. This is definitive evidence.