Mixed cultural relationship – any advice helps

I’m dating someone from a different cultural background. We are both young – turning 21 this year. We became bestfriends in the first couple years of university and then decided to take it to another level. We’ll be coming up to our first year anniversary and like all relationships we have problems. His parents and his anxiety/depression being a huge part. I feel like im constantly doing what he wants because he needs more support. I’m leaving the country in the next month for 4 months, and I really have no idea if I should break it off. He constantly reminds me that he loves me, but I don’t feel so happy anymore. Am I being dumb and should fight through this because he loves me so strongly and we got a lot of good things going on? Or should I break it off because I’m young, there will always be family issues and maybe this is the best time in my life to be selfish and see what else is out there.

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3 thoughts on “Mixed cultural relationship – any advice helps

  1. resullins says:

    [You said it yourself: you’re not happy.

    I would break it off. You’re young… you have your whole life to live, and you’re talking about trying to stick it out with a dude you’re not happy with? That’s insane. Go have some fun!!!!

  2. Solstice says:

    [Ditto to what Resullins said. If you aren’t happy, there is no reason to stay in a relationship, no matter your age. You are young! Move on.

    • nightowl says:

      [‘I feel like I’m constantly doing what he wants because he needs more support’…..’I don’t feel so happy anymore’. These two comments stand out for me in your post. I don’t think the problem is because you are in a mixed cultural relationship. I just don’t think this relationship is working for you anymore. Doing what one person in the relationship wants all the time sucks shit. Everything happens for a reason. The fact that you have to leave the country for 4 months at a time when things are not great between you might be a good thing. How do you feel when you imagine not being with this person? Better? Free? Sad? Happy? I think the fact that you are questioning the relationship and whether it’s worth it is important. You probably know already the best thing to do.

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