A bit of context: I’ve always been the nice guy. I mean that in the sense that I like seeing the people around me happy. I connect better with women, so most of my close friends are comprised of women.
I’m in my senior year in college, and many of my friends that are women find me as sort of the “safe” guy. The guy they hug, snuggle up next to, and are just overall overly affectionate. I don’t mind it, but it has given me a muddled perspective of flirting and romantic encounters.
I met this really nice girl recently. A lot of similar interests between us in a lot of weird places. She’s funny, I think she’s beautiful, all that jazz. But recently I’ve been kind of… confused. She’s super affectionate with me when we’re together. She leans on me, curls up next to me when we hang out, we link arms when either of us are too drunk, etc.
But for me, that isn’t much different from what other girls who have NOT been interested in me have done. There are women– friends– that I’ve made out with and done a lot more romantic things with. And this girl (we’ll call her Darsey) hasn’t really done anything out of the ordinary that I can tell that would make me assume she had a thing for me.
She’s always busy, so I don’t get a lot of time with her. When I do, we can’t really get time alone because she lives with one of my friends. I’ve always been deathly afraid of rejection, so this is probably part of my paranoia. I know this probably seems like a pretty childish concern, but I haven’t had much experience with relationships and my confidence is just about at rock bottom. So I guess I just kinda was looking for that extra push in the right direction.
Thanks for your time and words!