Let’s start with the fact that I’m 19, soon to be 20. Don’t judge this question based on my age please. How do you know if you’re in love with someone, or you just love them? I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years, and lately all it is, if fighting. We don’t have intimacy any longer, and I’ve come to realize that we not much in common, yet I still can’t bear to leave him because he means so much to me. I don’t know if I’m just not in love with him, and only love him, or what? What makes it hard is that we have a 2 year old daughter together, and I fear her going through her parents splitting up like I dealt with as a child. I don’t want to pain her. I don’t want things to be difficult or complicated for her. And I especially don’t want him meeting some girl who tries to mother my child. I don’t want our daughter to miss out on a happy mommy daddy upbringing. Is it possible that if we parted as good friends, that our daughter would be understanding as she ages? Or will she be damaged like I was. It doesn’t help that I feel like if I leave, I’ve wasted so much time on one person. I have a complicated past that was very hard to share with him, and I feel like all the trust I’ve laid into him, is just being wasted if I leave. Not to mention that I can’t bear the thought of seeing him happy with someone else, even though we aren’t at our happiest. It just seems that every little thing he does, sets me off and I don’t know what to do because he’s who I planned to spend my life with, but now I feel like that’s become so unrealistic. I feel so lost and unhappy, but yet I feel like I can’t be happy without him either. We’ve been through so much together that I feel like I’m throwing it all away. But I think we’ve grown into two drastically different people over the past three years. I’m having such a hard time trying to know what to do. Somebody please help because I can’t turn to anyone I know, due to the fact that they’re all biased.