Is he perfect or just hiding?

So i’ve been dating this guy for a few weeks now. (lets call him ed) in my experience guys always tend to be super touchy feely you know? Try a boob grab here n there but with ed hes like a gentleman and usually i can see through people n find who they actually are when they act like a gentleman but with him theres nothing… He almost sounds too good to be true anyways….

when we started dating he would gently kiss me n usually guys try to feel around but his hands just stay on my back then ill tell him how im self conscious about being a little fat n he’ll say but your beautiful n then kiss me all over my stomach then he slept over on accident cuz we just passed out n i for sure thought he was gonna try somethin but he just held me all night while i slept so at this point im just going down the list trying to find somethin wrong with him so we hung out with his friends n he didnt change at all (as in try to be manly or show off) he proudly introduced me as his girlfriend n kissed me same thing happened wen i met his family lastly wen we were in the back of his car just messing around or watever we were like an inch from having sex but he backed away without me saying anything n held me n said how much he loved me… You probably get the drift by now… Am i crazy for trying to find something wrong? I feel like im being paranoid cuz ik no ones perfect but i cant find anything wrong…

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5 thoughts on “Is he perfect or just hiding?

  1. Solstice says:

    [Just relax and enjoy your time with this guy. Stop trying to look for something wrong, unless you actually see something that is wrong.

  2. resullins says:

    [You’ve been with this guy a few weeks. And your previous experiences tell you that a “boob grab here and there” is what’s normal? Does that not sound COMPLETELY wrong to you? Men should respect you a little more than that.

    Ed is not the problem here sweetheart, your self-esteem is. You make mention that you feel like you’re a little heavier. Do you think maybe that’s skewing your bias here a little? Ed seems to like you exactly the way you are. You don’t need to go out of your way, or do anything physical, to perpetuate his affections. Just go with it, and learn to appreciate it.

    Take the time to get to know him, enjoy this period of your relationship, and then get physical when the time is right. You don’t need to let every guy you meet honk your melons the day you meet them!

    • PetiteSauvage says:

      [I’m new to this site, and don’t know if it’s appropriate as a comment, but “honk your melons” KILLED me.

      I think you’re absolutely right, “no one’s perfect” and Ed probably has a few issues you haven’t discovered yet- it’s only been a few weeks after all. But as of right now, it looks like disrespecting you or your anatomy or right to choose when to have sex isn’t one of them. Awesome! It might totally feel weird because you have come to expect nothing like that from your previous relationships….it’s a good weird- trust me.

      If you only ever deal with shitty people, it becomes second nature to look for the shit in everyone. When you don’t find it right away, your brain instinctively says, “this person is a lot better at hiding their shit than I’m used to!” What your brain should be saying is, “wow- it looks like I actually found a non-shitty person. I should stick with this for at least awhile.” The relationship is young- give it time- and enjoy the cool stuff while it’s happening. It may turn out you’re not a perfect fit for each other regardless of how awesome either of you are. That doesn’t mean he’s not great, nor does it mean you should go back to having your melons honked (I couldn’t help myself). It means you should continue getting to know this person- learn to gauge them for who they are, instead of gauging them against the behavior of past less-than-awesome people.

    • resullins says:

      [It’s always appropriate to comment. Even if you are new! And I’m glad someone picked up on my attempt at a little levity.

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