Communication

What is normal communication when you are dating someone? I have had guys who message me everyday, and then there is this current guy who messages me once a week or so when he wants to see me ( and we aren’t sleeping together yet, so it’s not a booty call:) ) We do see each other in social settings around twice a week.
I guess I am trying to find a baseline for normal.

Ps: I have a hard time focusing on super long comments so bullet points or shorter comments help! – Thanks 🙂

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4 thoughts on “Communication

  1. resullins says:

    [Avoid using the word “normal” at all costs. It will harm your relationship.

    What you should be asking is what amount of communication makes you happy and meets your needs. I will tell you that I would not be satisfied with a guy only talking to me every couple of days. He’s either not that interested, he’s completely clueless, or he’s a jackass. Tell him what you need from him, and if he doesn’t step up, then he’s either the first or last in that list, and then you need to move on.

    • resullins says:

      [Also… points for brevity to you, blurb author! Those rambling ones are tough to get through!

    • Anna says:

      [Thanks, that’s what I was thinking too. I mean no matter how busy if a guy is interested he better step it up right. Thank you!

  2. Dennis Hong says:

    [Here’s the way I look at it: There’s no such thing as “normal” in a case like this. Some couples need to stay in touch several times a day. Some couples only say a few words to each other at the end of the night. One is not any more “normal” to the other. It’s just personal preference.

    Similar to what Res said then, what matters is that he communicates to you at the amount that you want to communicate with him. If you’re both happy talking several times a day, awesome. If you’re both happy talking a few times a week, awesome again. If you want to talk to him every day, but he barely ever calls… not so awesome.

    Point being, look at is as a sign of compatibility if you are dating a guy who wants to talk to you just as much as you want to talk to him.

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