So I’ve been with my fiancee for about 7 years now. About three years ago, our sex life began to look somewhat questionable. We’ve since been working to get things more regular and enjoyable. I’ve been having a hard time getting her to the end, by any means. And I have invested significant amounts of time, I would gladly stay down there for another hour, but she usually cuts it off. Her claim is that her mind wanders, she thinks about groceries and house chores. I’ve diagnosed this situation as sexual add. I think, at least in part, there’s something for me to do here to pull her into the game better. Though after I make that assertion, I do find myself without great ideas.
Maybe our sex isn’t that hot, sometimes i find myself thinking back to our hottest sessions together, that’s how i get to the end. And I feel she too should do her best to stay in the right headspace. But can I blame her if it’s a struggle to mentally achieve a sexual place? So to a certain degree, we’re both a bit ‘off’.