My military guy has created a split personality for himself to help him separate his work life from his personal life. When he’s at work he is very defensive, cold, and harsh, and it takes him a while to remove his armor when he gets home (and sometimes he barks at me by accident, which really doesn’t work for me). He has worked very hard to treat me well, and is really fantastic.
My question is, once he is no longer in the military, will he need an outlet for the defensive/aggressive side of his personality, or will he be able to let it go? He created that persona so that he could deal with the environment in which he works without getting hurt. I’m just concerned that after so many years of practicing it, it will have become a permanent fixture. Does anyone have any experience with this? I’ve sort of broached the subject with him, and he had never considered it. Just trying to get some perspective (acknowledging that everyone will be different).