What are his intentions?
So I’ve been friends with this guy Chuck for 15 years. He’s my ex-husbands ex-band mate(they toured extensively together for a least 10years), he was the witness at my wedding and is my son’s godfather (in name only). We’ve always gotten along and have an underlying admiration and affection for each other. He’s always been there for me, defended me, supported me, and has generally shown that he cares for me. I’ve been divorced from my ex for 5years and over that time, Chuck and I have developed a more independant relationship (from my ex) through sporadic phone calls, as he lives in another city. Over the past 6 months or so he’s been jokingly saying that he and I should get married, but we can’t because I’m so and so’s ex-wife. The last time we spoke of the topic, we basically delineated what living together would be like. Recently I travelled to another city to see him and he was thrilled to see me. We went bar hopping and it was like we were on a date. He held my hand and he kept kissing me on the cheek and giving me hugs. (He has never been affectionate with me in the past.) However, he also kept introducing me to people as so and so’s wife and I kept correcting him, “ex-wife.” He also did something REALLY sweet and generous for me while I was there. My question is: Is he interested in being more than friends? Why would a guy be affectionate with a buddy’s ex if he just saw her as a friend? He kept extending his hand to cross the street and such. I really suck at relationship stuff and any input would be appreciated. Maybe he was just drunk? I told him to come visit and he said he would.