I just wrote a blurb with about 5000 characters and after hitting ‘submit’, it was all gone… yay me!
So here we go again:
This summer, I met a woman through work. She was based 1000 km away in another country (we’re both in Europe), but I could tell from her accent she must originally be from somewhere close by.
Shortly after we started working together, she tells me she is on gardening leave until the end of year with full pay and would I be interested in grabbing lunch when she is in town (visiting old friends)? Sure, why not. She seems pleasant enough.
We meet and she is not only pleasant and charming, but also super attractive. Out of my league (also, no way she’s single). We mostly talk about travel, as I was in a similar situation the year before and spent almost two months traveling. Lunch is over and I figure I’m never going to see her again or at least not for a long time. But, I do see her again, only four days later. We go for lunch again and I try to fish for some information, like what is her relationship status (by talking about me being single, not by asking her directly!). She isn’t saying anything though.
We keep meeting every now and again, always for lunch or coffee, never in the evening. I pushed (not too hard, admittedly) for a dinner date or going for a drink in the evening but she never went for it. She always seemed to entertain my suggestion for a bit, but ultimately shut it down. Except once, when she got off a train coming through my town to grab a quick drink with me and then took the next train to her actual destination. But we barely had an hour.
We have one last lunch before she takes off on a cruise with her mother. It’s a bit awkward as I’m not sure what to do, but still pleasant. I suggest another meeting, which she at first agrees to, then tells me she’d rather stay in, pack her bags and watch Twilight. During the early days of the cruise, she sometimes texts me. Then nothing for 2+ weeks. She gets back home on a weekend, the Monday morning after, she texts me, telling me how amazing it was and that I need to come with her on a cruise to Asia next year (she is going with a group of people she met on this trip, she quickly adds).
We decide to meet for coffee one morning and somehow end up also sneaking a bottle of sparkling wine into the place, which we also drink. Before and after this meeting, we both tell each other how we’re looking forward to be seeing the other one again and how much we enjoyed it afterwards.
She is then moving on to spend the weekend with the people she met on the cruise. To my surprise, she keeps texting me and sending me pictures of what she’s up to all weekend. I reply in kind.
She then goes home for a week, before she takes off for Brazil where she’s meeting friends from University. At first we stay in touch during the week, then she falls silent. I ask when her plane leaves, no response. On the day I think she’s leaving (two days after my last text and no response from her), I text her again wishing her a good trip. She replies from her layover and we chat for a few minutes before she has to go on her plane.
Since then, I only sent one message asking if she arrived okay and telling her how freezing cold it was here. I haven’t heard from her in three days.
1) as it says in the title: is she into me or am I imagining things?
2) there are good reasons for her not getting back to me: besides being on these trips, she is also moving to another city for a new job after she gets back from Brazil. And she hasn’t seen the people she is with in Brazil for years. Still, when you are interested in someone, you’d find the time to stay in touch, no?
3) What should I do? Keep texting her even when she’s not replying? I don’t want to seem clingy or over-eager, but I also feel like there can be no harm in showing her I’m interested in being involved in her life… Right?